tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11791137531451877552024-03-12T22:13:42.400-04:00A Corner of My WorldThough I have suffered no small amount of emotional pain and distress because of it, I can honestly say I have spent my life imparting a fierce unequivocal love to those I call 'friends.'Ritahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15713132787151439382noreply@blogger.comBlogger106125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1179113753145187755.post-39387792989993001152011-03-22T12:53:00.000-04:002011-03-22T12:53:14.321-04:00Tax Time and a Random ReflectionTax time...it usually sours my countenance. Getting a new accountant was at the top of our tax troubles, but it didn't stop there. This year we're getting back less than last year (loo-ooong story).Strangely enough though, the whole W-2, Jackson Hewitt, H & R Block, accountant thing is bringing a nostalgic smile to my face.<br />
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We had some friends in our lives, whom I believed loved us very dearly. Every year at tax time, they would give us a gift. It wouldn't be a family gift; it would be a gift for me and a gift for Kevin. It was such a remarkale show of love and appreciation to their Pastor, it always left me feeling so humbled. <br />
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These weren't wealthy people, neither were they poor. However, they could have spent their money on their own children. And let me say, their children didn't go without so they could buy us a gift. I'm merely saying they could have spent <strong>ALL </strong>their money on their children. They also bought us gifts at Christmas on the same fashion. It humbled us greatly, but it also pleasured our hearts to unspeakable ends to see people so kind, so willing to give, especially when it wasn't required.<br />
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Even though we haven't seen these friends in a very long time, I think of them every year at tax time. It's a strange thing, I know. I'm not looking for a gift. I'm just remember a blessing from long ago. I'm so glad I could experience other peoples kindness to me. Now I look for the opportunity to do the same.Ritahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15713132787151439382noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1179113753145187755.post-43465121463042787532010-12-01T03:32:00.005-05:002010-12-01T21:47:21.137-05:00Thinking of OthersSometimes, you don't really think of others.<br /><br />I know I don't.<br /><br />Now, I like to think I do. And I really think I do. Most of the time I really do.<br /><br />But this time...I didn't.<br /><br />You know, that time in your life, when your world is very small and extremely self inclusive?? Well, that's where I've been lately. Or at least that's where I was a couple of days before Thanksgiving.<br /><br />It's one of those 'It all started it when...." kind of stories. The car has been giving us trouble...the stove isn't working. The radiator heaters keep tripping the breakers. I promise, <strong><em>every <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_0" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">light bulb</span> in this place </em></strong>blew out in one day. (<span id="SPELLING_ERROR_1" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">OK</span>...not every one...but it <em>seemed </em>like every one!) If it can go wrong-it HAS gone wrong.<br /><br />Please don't get me wrong. We currently live at our Church in a converted apartment. We had lived here before in the basement, but it was <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_2" class="blsp-spelling-error">sooo</span> dreary we couldn't stand the thought of living downstairs again. I am most grateful for the living arrangements, and the last thing I want to come across as is <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_3" class="blsp-spelling-error">unthankful</span> for what the Lord and the Church have provided.<br /><br />However, it seems that Murphy's Law has arrested us and has had us in custody for quite some time. So, when Thanksgiving week rolled around and the baking element in my oven wasn't working, I really thought I would come unhinged. <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_4" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">After all</span>, how could I have a turkey if I couldn't bake it? And what about the dressing and the sweet potato casserole?<br /><br />I located an appliance parts store in Athens that carried the element I needed, but in my usual fashion, I shopped around for a better price. A local competitor in Winder was going to have the part for me the next day, but I told him I needed it that day (Tuesday) and that I would be going to Athens to buy it at another store. The sales clerk said "OK" in a very snide tone and hung up.<br /><br />Oh...if I had only known what that meant.<br /><br />I drove all the way to Athens (I was pushed for time) and when I got there, the competitor in Winder had called the store in Athens and cleaned him out of all the parts that I needed.<br /><br />I almost cried.<br /><br /><em>"No Thanksgiving dinner..." </em>I thought to myself.<br /><br />I thought the owner was joking when he said he was sold out of the heating elements I needed. After all, he had three of them just an hour earlier. When I told him about my attempt to deal with the Winder store, he knew right away they had done it out of spite. Apparently, as soon as I told the Winder associate that I was going to purchase my heating element from Athens, they hung up and called the Athens store, purchased all three that he had in stock, and then sent someone by to pick them up.<br /><br />The Athens store owner was kind enough to help me locate the part in Commerce. As I waited for him to located it, I noticed the rain falling outside; it was getting dark fast. He found my part and sent me on my way. Or so I thought.<br /><br />I went outside to crank my '88 Blazer and the battery was dead. Again, I fought back tears. At this point, I'm wondering what I've done wrong. I knew I had to hold it together in order to get someone to jump off my battery. After about 15-25 minutes I was back on the road to get my baking element.<br /><br />When I arrived at the hardware store in Commerce, I was delighted to find that the heating element was less expensive than I had anticipated. It was strangely shaped though.<br /><br /><em>"<span id="SPELLING_ERROR_5" class="blsp-spelling-error">Hmmmm</span>.... I wonder if this is the right element? Well, the appliance man in Athens called and gave them the part number and they <strong>said </strong>it was the right one."</em><br /><em></em><br />After I got my receipt, I expressed my concern, and the clerk said I could not bring back an electrical part if it was not the right one. Oh well...the only way to know is to take it home and try. I didn't have the old one with me to compare it to.<br /><br />You know those sinking feelings?? Well, I had one the whole way home. That discounted element not only ended up being the wrong one, but it also ended up shorting out the <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_6" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">thermostat</span>. Now the problem with the stove was no longer a $50 problem; it was a $170 problem.<br /><br />I cried. I cried hard.<br /><br />No Thanksgiving dinner. On top of that, my food budget was cut short by the purchase of a battery for my vehicle. Talk about adding insult to injury. I couldn't figure out what was going on in my life, why things were so difficult.<br /><br />It didn't take long for me to realize how petty I was being, especially when God reminded me of how much I could cook <strong><em>without </em></strong>an oven. I have cooked many turkeys and hams in a crockpot, and I did still have full use of the stove top. I would have to sacrifice the casseroles, dressing, and homemade pumpkin pie, but I didn't have to sacrifice Thanksgiving Day!<br /><br />I was beginning to feel better about Thanksgiving Day. Wednesday night came and I was "encouraged" because <strong><em>MY FAMILY</em></strong> was going to have Thanksgiving. We have had an exceptionally trying year, and Thanksgiving is one of my favorite times of the year. It's a very intimate time for our family. We spend it with just our immediate family, so it's very important to us. And we like it to be everything we envision it to be.<br /><br />During the prayer requests, I remembered to ask for special prayer for dear friends of ours. They are evangelists who travel around the country. They live in a travel trailer pulled by a Ford F-350. They live in this 365 days a year. They own no other house. When I talked to my dear sister in Christ, she asked me to please pray for them about their trailer. It's having some MAJOR problems that need repair. She reminded me that this was her home and that she felt like it was falling apart. She told me that something would have to be done about it soon.<br /><br />I relayed all this in my prayer request. As we all knelt to pray, I bowed down on my knees....this family was heavy on my heart. As I started to pray for them, I thought of how "discouraged" I had been the past couple of days.<br /><br />I thought of how petty I had been about an oven, yet the needs of others were so much greater than mine. If she could have seen how ridiculously depressed I had been over an oven and a battery....yet her house is in desperate need of repair. That travel trailer is all her family has and it needs major attention. If her house isn't suitable for travel, they can't evangelize. It's so much more serious than a broken oven.<br /><br />I felt somewhat ashamed, but I also felt grateful for what I have. I wasn't even thinking of Tamatha and her family. Come to think of it, I wasn't thinking of Ruby and the fact that she needed her roof repaired. Her husband died 6 weeks ago before he could get their house reroofed.<br /><br />I didn't even think of Annette. Her roof is in the same shape as Ruby's, except there's actually some water damage at her house.<br /><br />I wasn't thinking of anyone, except me. That's so easy to do. But while saying a prayer for someone else and their needs, God helped me see just how small my needs really were.<br /><br />Fortunately, Thanksgiving isn't just a season. It's an attitude of the heart. I don't have to wait until next November to adjust the attitude of my heart. That's something I should do every day, perhaps even minute by minute if required.<br /><br />And the more I have my heart in a spirit of Thanksgiving, you can be sure I'm not thinking of myself. I'm thinking of others.Ritahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15713132787151439382noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1179113753145187755.post-16946728531392791542010-11-01T23:04:00.002-04:002010-11-01T23:14:49.309-04:00ResurfacingIt's not an easy thing to do, resurfacing.<br /><br />When you've been gone as long as I have, sometimes you think it's best to just stay gone for good...but I decided to emerge from my inactivity and give blogging another shot.<br /><br />It's not like that hasn't been anything to tell. Maybe there has been TOO much to tell. Really, <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_0" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">no one</span> wants to hear my endless numerations of doctor appointments and the such like. That stuff gets so old after a while (at least for the one that pays the bill).<br /><br />If nothing else I want to come back and finish a story that I started. I want to finish the last few chapters of my "Seasons" series. I hope I still have some readers left to enjoy it! Thanks to those who have followed so far. As sure as there are seasons for every thing else, there is a season for me to pen my experience....I really, really need to bleed it out.<br /><br />With the holidays coming up, there will be more to tell! It's fall y'all...enjoy the weather!Ritahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15713132787151439382noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1179113753145187755.post-7890750029159335452010-05-01T00:08:00.004-04:002010-05-01T01:25:55.235-04:00She Inspired Me Without Even Knowing ItI believe her name is Mary.<br /><br />She works the breakfast shift at the Commerce <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_0" class="blsp-spelling-error">Hardees</span>. I didn't notice her much when she had two arms. I'm not even sure when she lost her left arm. All I know is that one day it dawned on me that this woman had incredible will!<br /><br />Mary works the drive <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_1" class="blsp-spelling-error">thru</span>, and you can see it in her face; grit, determination, and an undeniable sense of pride. She is easily in her early fifties. And as an African American, Mary has seen her part of injustice and the reparations thereof. Without even knowing her, she <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_2" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">emanates</span> a history...it's all etched in her countenance.<br /><br />She's never been one for a bunch of chit-chat at the window, well at least not with me. She just does her work and does it quiet well. Polite and efficient, she does her job: gets her customers through without a dreadfully long wait.<br /><br />About a month ago, I pulled up to the window to pay for my order,and I noticed Mary's dangling left sleeve. It was one of those rare times I had to wait longer than a minute for my order. I sat there watching Mary work. She not only ran the register at the window, she filled the orders for fries, cokes, etc. She even bagged the orders. She did EVERYTHING everyone else did, except she did it with one arm. I tried to think back to when she possibly lost her arm. Then I remembered....<br /><br />One day will sitting in the drive <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_3" class="blsp-spelling-error">thru</span>, I noticed a paper taped to the serving window that was basically a thank you from Mary. I could gather that she had been either sick or had surgery and a collection had been taken up for her. Not only had her co-workers given, but the customers had given as well.<br /><br /><span id="SPELLING_ERROR_4" class="blsp-spelling-error">Hmmmm</span>...I didn't recall ever seeing a collection basket or a note posted asking for donations, but perhaps I was stuck in my own self consumed world to the point that such a thing as that was just so petty that my eyes overlooked it.<br /><br />So, Mary had lost her arm either through injury or illness, but here she was at work. I literally marveled.<br /><br />I watched as she took an order from the drive <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_5" class="blsp-spelling-error">thru</span>, and as she pressed the button on the receiver attached to her belt, it pulled the headset slightly back off her head. She continued with the order over the intercom, then took my debit card, and tried to reposition her headset.<br /><br />I so <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_6" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">desperately</span> wanted someone in there to push Mary's headset back up on her head the way it was supposed to be! I had an urge to point to one of the co-workers and then point to Mary's sliding headset. I felt a great sense of pity for her, but I saw no pity for herself on her own face. The faces of her co-workers were just like her's; resolute. They weren't going to step in and help. I knew right away, she had established her independence on the job, and she could handle every aspect of her duties.<br /><br />What left me truly amazed was that Mary was working. Afterall, she could get disability. She didn't have to get up at 4 AM and open up the doors at 5 AM for the mad rush of Hardees biscuit lovers. There are times the line is all the way out to the highway, yet Mary keeps up. Pffft....most people would say no to that shift anyway. But here was a clearly disabled, yet not disadvantaged, woman who was willing to work instead of stay at home.<br /><br />Folks, there are alot of applications here. You could talk political, moral, or spiritual. I just sat there that day thinking about the work ethic that had to be at the core of a woman that would continue to work after losing an arm. Perhaps she had to work...she may not have had a choice. Maybe she didn't believe in drawing a check if she wasn't completely disabled. There are folks like that, you know.<br /><br />All I know is Mary inspired me. Keep going. Keep going. Keep going. Even if the easier way looks better, keep going.<br /><br />She finally got her headset back on her head straight, then she handed me my order. I just looked at her, blinked a few times, said thank you, and drove off. I've had her on my mind ever since.<br /><br />If Mary can bag biscuits, ring up money and count it back with one arm, what am I capable of? It's no contest, it's just that someone with such a hinderance performs as if there is no hinderance at all.Ritahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15713132787151439382noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1179113753145187755.post-3367344195781409542010-02-18T11:48:00.016-05:002010-02-19T17:17:36.303-05:00Good Things-They Come to Those Who Have a Right Heart!<span style="font-family:trebuchet ms;"><strong><em>*****If you can't handle honesty, especially out of a Pastor's wife, please don't bother reading this. It is a humorous piece, and I am brutally honest about myself. It is meant to show the folly of selfishness and <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">selfcenteredness</span>. I can laugh at myself, and I invite you <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">ot</span> laugh with me. If you intend to judge, I ask you to keep the verdict to yourself.******</em></strong></span><br /><span style="font-family:trebuchet ms;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:trebuchet ms;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:trebuchet ms;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:trebuchet ms;">I have to take you way back for this one, I mean <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">waaaay</span> back. Like almost 4 years ago. Were you thinking farther back? Sorry, this has been a long journey for me. It seems like 40 years, much like the children of Israel wandering around it the wilderness.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:Trebuchet MS;"></span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:Trebuchet MS;">So, around 4 years ago the happy Whitman family, complete with a West Highland Terrier, decide they need another pet. Amendment: The Whitman family minus one-me! It wasn't that I was <em>completely </em>opposed, it was just that I was very much afraid that I would end up with all the training duties. We had new carpet and new furniture. Why ruin it?? We had one perfectly contented pet, Shiloh. Did he really want a contender?</span><br /><span style="font-family:Trebuchet MS;"></span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:Trebuchet MS;">But, alas, I was vetoed. My husband has always wanted a Siberian Husky, so there was no way to stop this plan for a new pet. Much to his and the children's delight, some dear friends of ours had some Husky puppies. It was love at first sight, even for me. I still remained cautiously guarded. I was not blinded by this blue eyed beauty. However, she became the newest member of the Whitman crew. Little did we know that Nikita would become Shiloh's arch rival and my nemisis.</span><br /><span style="font-family:Trebuchet MS;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:Trebuchet MS;">Nikita was well loved by the children and Kevin, but I saw her for what she was...trouble! She was aggressive, especially towards Shiloh. She chewed on everything in sight. As she grew, she began to resemble a cockroach on stilts. Her body seemed too slender and wobbly for her long, splindly legs. Those darling blue eyes became mischevious.</span><br /><span style="font-family:Trebuchet MS;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:Trebuchet MS;">Her biggest problem was chewing. Even though we supplied her with chew toys, she loved to chew on my things. Not the children's things. Not Kevin's things. MY things. She would descriminately over look the children's shoes on the living room floor in order to seek out my shoes that were put away neatly. Boy was she smart! She shredded my clothing, not Kevin's or the children's. Funny how that worked out.</span><br /><span style="font-family:Trebuchet MS;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:Trebuchet MS;">Nikki was barricaded from my bedroom. She was not allowed in my bedroom for any reason at all! I had to be particularly careful when I was putting away laundry because she would sneak in, slither under the bed, and hid without me ever knowing. Sneaky little fox. She was as fast as lighening! I can't even begin to enumerate the times I would go back in my bedroom and find her little sleepy head laying on a pile of clothes that she had pulled from the dirty clothes basket in the master bath and shredded to pieces. When I would scream at her, she would look at me with sadistic glee, then run for her life!</span><br /><span style="font-family:Trebuchet MS;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:Trebuchet MS;">But one day it got serious. Very serious. My Bible was missing, and no matter where we looked we couldn't find it. We checked the SUV, the truck, the music basket by the piano...it was nowhere to be found. I never leave my Bible at church, but I concluded, that must have been what had happened. I had used another Bible at home during our search, but it was driving me crazy trying to figure out where my Bible was.</span><br /><span style="font-family:Trebuchet MS;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:Trebuchet MS;">Then on a Sunday morning, I remembered Nikita's great propensity to hide under my bed. I looked under the foot of my bed but didn't see anything. I remembered that the last place I had it was in a basket beside my bed, so I looked on my side. Since my bed is only 18 inches from the wall, I had to squeeze in this small spot. There I was, bowing like a Muslim, one eye squished closed, nose pinned to the carpet, looking under my bed for a Bible still at large.</span><br /><span style="font-family:Trebuchet MS;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:Trebuchet MS;">Then I spotted it. It was halfway under my king size bed. I got on my stomach and started stretching and wiggling and grunting...but I finally got it! My Bible was finally back in my possession. I was thrilled. But only for a moment. I saw huge gnaw marks on the spine and corners of my Bible. I was ready to exact revenge on an animal I never wanted and on the person that brought her here. I thought to myself, "Someone is <strong><em>soooo </em></strong>going to pay" I immediately let out a banshee scream in Fred Flintstone fashion, "KE-VIN!!!!!!!!!" From that point on, Nikita had a bulls eye on her back. I began to look for new owners right away.</span><br /><span style="font-family:Trebuchet MS;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:Trebuchet MS;">Since it was Sunday morning, I had to carry my newly mangled Bible to church as soon as I found it. I was so upset. I couldn't even cry. Now, in my book, that's pretty upset. I decided to carry that Bible as a medal of Honor. Sick isn't it? I was out to prove I had been done wrong by a dog I didn't want. And guess who was going to have to buy me a new Bible? </span><br /><span style="font-family:Trebuchet MS;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:Trebuchet MS;">In a way, it served as an experiment. I wanted to see how long I would have to carry a mangled Textus Receptus before I would be offered an new one. I thought it should be replaced immediately. After all, it wasn't my fault! If it had been up to me, 'ole cockroach Nikki would have never lodged at Whitsinn to begin with.</span><br /><span style="font-family:Trebuchet MS;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:Trebuchet MS;">That following Christmas, I fully expected a new Bible under the tree. We had a wonderful Christmas, but I didn't get a Bible. Strange. I know I dropped at least 1000 hints. I dropped hints over the next several years, but I never got a Bible. It got to the point that I was like, "OK. I better not be getting a Bible. 'Cause I deserve that from like 4 years ago! I'm due on that issue from the Nikita episode, so I should be getting that regardless of a holiday!"</span><br /><span style="font-family:Trebuchet MS;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:Trebuchet MS;">Valentines Day, Birthdays, Christmases....they have all passed. And I've wondered when Kevin would present me with a new Bible. ****crickets chirping***** I still have the same mangled Antiochan text. </span><br /><span style="font-family:Trebuchet MS;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:Trebuchet MS;">Until recent events that is....Last week Kevin asked me what I wanted for Valentines Day, and I really didn't know what to tell him. I had not given it much thought at all. </span><br /><span style="font-family:Trebuchet MS;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:Trebuchet MS;">We were coming home from a week long meeting at Lake Robinson Baptist Church in Hartsville SC, and we stopped at a Christian Bookstore. I asked Kevin about a Bible (I'm due, remember?). He showed me several, but I wasn't pleased with any that I saw. We both decided to wait and order one online after we got home. </span><br /><span style="font-family:Trebuchet MS;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:Trebuchet MS;">When I got home, I found the one I wanted, I mean really wanted. Kevin was pleased with my choice and said he would buy it for me.</span><br /><span style="font-family:Trebuchet MS;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:Trebuchet MS;">Sunday night while sitting in Church, I had my Bible on my lap. I ran my hand across the cover and ran my fingers around the chew marks that had hallmarked my Bible for almost 4 years now. I prayed in my heart, "Lord, I really want that new Bible. I want a new concordance, too. I want a Bible cover to protect <em>this</em> new one." </span><br /><span style="font-family:Trebuchet MS;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:Trebuchet MS;">For the first time since the Nikita incident, I literally yearned for a new Bible. I sat and thought about studying for Sunday School out of a new Bible. I thougth about how precious the words are that are contained within the pages...my desire ony waxed stronger as I contemplated what I held in my lap.</span><br /><span style="font-family:Trebuchet MS;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:Trebuchet MS;">Then the Lord gently reproved me and said, "You know that's why you haven't gotten a new one yet. You haven't had a desire. You've only had an expectation."</span><br /><span style="font-family:Trebuchet MS;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:Trebuchet MS;">My heart dropped. In my silly crusade to show I was a victim of circumstance, I was being so selfish and selfcentered. I wanted my husband's desire for me to have a new Bible to be greater than my own.</span> What was wrong with me??? I actually expected to get a Bible off of my husband's desire. Very twisted but oh so common in the victim mentality.<br /><br />But then, in the midst of guilt and shame, the Lord spoke to me and said, "You get a new one now, though." My Father is like that, encouraging me and lifting my spirits, even when I am the source of my own trouble. Confession to the Lord does so much, doesn't it?<br /><br />Somehow we feel like others become responsible for our reaction to pain, anguish, and suffering. I was the only one responsible for making the chewed Bible cover a way to make my husband look bad or a way to make me look good. The key is responsibility...and my, doesn't that scare most people! The truth is, Nikita, my unwelcomed guest, was the only one responsible for my damaged Bible, and she didn't have the money to buy one. So....I have to get it from someone, right?? The ridiculous extremes people will go to just because they want to prove a point or because they are angry.<br /><br /><span style="font-family:Trebuchet MS;">So here I sit today, waiting for my Bible to arrive next week and telling the story of how good things come to those how have a right heart. Yes, sometimes you have to wait. But, the wait is worth it. And so is the lesson you learn.</span><br /><br /><br /><span style="font-family:Trebuchet MS;"></span>Ritahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15713132787151439382noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1179113753145187755.post-43853833948639822942010-02-16T22:23:00.003-05:002010-02-17T00:24:47.246-05:00SacrificeOver the past month or so, the theme of service and sacrifice has been strongly impressed upon my heart and mind. The two go hand in hand; quite inseparable, I'd say. And though many of us would like to say we are in the "service" of the Lord, I'm afraid that very few are making much of a sacrifice to do so.<br /><br />I'm no Biblical expositor, nor have I ever claimed to be. But it doesn't take a rocket scientist to know that the word 'sacrifice' implies death. In this particular area of service, death has to come to our own selves. After all, don't we have to move out of the way in order to think of others first?<br /><br />There is a current situation that comes to mind immediately. There's a dear lady in our Church that has been diagnosed with cancer. She is almost finished with her radiation treatments, but it has been a long, long journey for her. Fortunately, our congregation has done several things to try to be a blessing to their family. We've cooked meals (daily at first), some have cleaned her house, we've given money to help with the travel expenses to her radiation treatments. Our only regret is that we couldn't do more. Through all of our efforts to help this family, there was a sacrifice made. And even though it's a 'sacrifice', it brings most people joy just knowing they are helping someone in need. It's very simplistic, I know, but some people are missing the boat.<br /><br />Why is it that people can't seem to sacrifice a little time, a little money, a little effort to help someone else? Over the past 12 years as a Pastor's wife, I've seen many situations where people were just flat out unwilling to serve others because it would call for some sacrifice on their part. What's even worse is those who serve and then complain about their sacrifice! Goodness....don't bother.<br /><br />I've seen people sit on their hands while meals were being assigned for a special meeting. Perhaps it was a cost factor. Perhaps it was selfish heart that didn't want to serve. Some people just don't want to give of themselves because it will require them to give up something they have. Would it be so terrible to cook your pot roast for someone in need or a visiting preacher and perhaps your family feast on sandwiches instead? Or is that too much of a sacrifice?<br /><br />I remember a situation about 6 years ago that perfectly illustrates this point. My house was on the market, and at that time, my health was less than stellar. My family and I were having to go out of town alot, and there was always the chance of a realtor having to show my house while I was away.<br /><br />Our Church has always been blessed with a unique unity and with a group of ladies that will work. Of course, there has always been exceptions to the rule, but for the most part, we have always had very caring, productive ladies.<br /><br />One particular weekend my family had to go out of town. My house was a disaster! I didn't really have time to clean it, but I wasn't able to physically. To my surprise, while I was away some of the ladies from the Church had come in my home and thoroughly cleaned my house. Top to bottom, it was clean as a whistle!<br /><br />I have to admit, it was very hard to accept that others had come into my home and seen my mess. It hurt my pride. But at the same time, the Lord helped me to see what a tremendous blessing the ladies of my Church were to me! And even though I was embarrassed at the mess, I was humbled that my sisters in Christ thought enough of me to clean my house so that the realtor could show a clean home to a prospective buyer.<br /><br />The Sunday after I returned, I thanked all the ladies involved. I thanked each of them individually for their sacrifice, for that's what it was in my opinion.<br /><br />I thanked one lady in particular by saying, "Thank you for cleaning my house. I know you probably left your house a mess just to clean mine, and I appreciate what you ...."<br /><br />I was cut off abruptly. She responded very sharply, "I wouldn't come clean your house if <strong><em>my</em></strong> house wasn't clean!"<br /><br />I was stunned. I didn't really know what to say. As our British friends would say, I was gobsmacked. All I could hear was, "I wouldn't do something for you that I don't already have for myself."<br /><br />I thanked her anyway, but it didn't seem like as much of a blessing from her as it did the other ladies. It wouldn't have mattered if her house was sparkling clean or as messy as mine, the attitude of her comment said it all; "I wouldn't have cleaned your house if <strong><em>my</em></strong> house wasn't clean."<br /><br />Let's just think of where all of our sacrifices would be if that were the standard. I will do this for so and so if I have it myself.... I will serve in this capacity if I have this or that for myself....Doesn't seem like much of a sacrifice does it?<br /><br />This notion of service without sacrifice is pure folly. You can't serve the Lord or others without a measure of sacrifice. Everyone can't sacrifice the same amount, but everyone can have a heart to serve. That is, if they <strong><em>want</em></strong> to have a heart of service.Ritahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15713132787151439382noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1179113753145187755.post-9693292736008812312009-11-12T22:33:00.006-05:002022-08-11T06:38:28.552-04:00The Day I Waited, But Nobody CameI had hurried home off the school bus so I could get my Friday afternoon chores done. I was expecting company around 6 p.m. And I wanted to be ready! After all, they would be picking me up for the football game and then who knows <em>what </em>afterwards!<br /><br />I still hadn't explained to my mother. I wasn't exactly sure she would warm up to the idea of her daughter riding off on the back of a pickup truck with a group of high school girls headed to a football game. But this is the way the sororities did it: if you were accepted into the sorority, they came to your house the Friday night after Rush week, picked you up in a truck along with all the other new girls, and you went to the high school football game together with your new "sisters."<br /><br />Sounds so collegiate, doesn't it? I was but a high school sophomore in a city loaded with old money and abounding with history. Camden SC to be exact, one of the most beautiful cities I have ever set my eyes upon. Camden....<br /><p><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5403460892000213538" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 127px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 80px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjdT9Lgum_nKSnH24qXRcXGzHV-hSw84tsxr4Gz_plZc8eJusSmGXoJvMBFDj8juQZxC2_UQFC6Hvt7j5xWBaj9OMthMArn9Vz_bSHt3PyRroLGkroO1uLbHtx-4jd-R69eye48bm7TvK1q/s320/camden2.jpg" border="0" />A city known as the Steeplechase capital of the World. It is the oldest inland city in the state of South Carolina, the site of the worst American defeat of the Revolution. I challenge any of the readers who have never visited this lovely little city to go there, drive through the down town area, and tell me where else you could go and see the <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">plethora</span> of colonial houses that line the streets. Those aren't <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1"><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">run</span></span> down <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">shanties</span>. They are occupied, lovingly restored, <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_3"><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">Charlestonian</span></span> inspired mansion styled homes. Not just one street of them. Multiple streets. Christmas time is <strong><em>amazing</em></strong> in the downtown area. And I fell in LOVE with the place when I first moved there as a teenager. <img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5403460114221885858" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 115px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 77px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj96agaLhOV_gJlP_z9VEhH6Jz9DiON_2JssU7EHl939B_rpdwkE2FDlvRnBoQMvo2xJUPdoEUouIYgBfBEGlKSXr8LlkJsl7vZX52oeIg-50AYihPFY-Z9v9RSaIcBisUgzjFCFpGRw1Ak/s320/camden6.jpg" border="0" /> <img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5403460345193128114" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 125px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 94px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiE2bCfA8W3GALxOv0rovGaBwTX3ZHY70d_KgVKuc4cR0vUWVPYcdbw1wuouaDlfid-XAfS8dJvXXp7HCSIp6iNAU_h0_ZNZDQR6Ve46lk-UnOqJIorKfUL5qU6_XrNRywJqKhZ0vl5BiNC/s320/camden1.jpg" border="0" /> <img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5403460555884213346" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 121px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 91px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh8D2UQ5Tl9h9JZLfPFbn83LixQ9mL8-MLzn7VXLKQDZx4djPsYqSe0ECTujNTIQ3oGyzW1jRtt7GQZz4E54ew7LjHiD7nDB9DyWWcNQHSJFPGk3CE_CIV8hTMRn0cRBrStzJ-hQwUT809t/s320/camden3.jpg" border="0" /> With all the history came the equally <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">highbrowed</span> culture, even in <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_3">high school</span>. I can remember the curriculum guide for the technical school classes (brick laying, drafting, etc) having a disclaimer at the bottom that read something like: If your parents are millionaires, the following classes probably will not interest you. Perhaps they were joking. After all, that was before the days of political correctness. However, I do remember as a student parking beside Jaguars, and there were students that were children of millionaires. So, in the broad scheme of things, sororities were not out of place in a high school like Camden High. To this very day, I have never heard of another high school that had them. </p><p>I had moved to Camden from a small town in North Carolina. We lived in a mill village, right across from the cotton mill. The village was made up of quaint little houses, but most of the people didn't take <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_4">alot</span> of pride in them, leaving the neighborhood looking run down. When my mother remarried and we moved to Camden, I was thrilled to be getting out of the mill village. I was "moving on up" in my opinion!<br /><br />Now, I didn't particularly love the snobbery that was so evident in Camden, but I, like so many teenagers, wanted to be accepted. As a freshman in high school, the buzz words towards the end of second semester were, "are you going to rush for a sorority next year?"<br /><br />I wasn't an incredibly popular person. I <em>wanted</em> to be. I craved friendship. Not just attention, but genuine friendship. And I wanted to reciprocate that friendship as well. So, my mind was made up. Even though I thought some of the sorority <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_5">chics</span> were snobs, I would go to the rush parties (IF I was invited) and HOPE that I could get in one of the three sister societies that would secure what I hoped would be long term friendships.<br /><br />There were three sororities. Their breakdowns are as follows: Beta Gamma aka, "<span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_6">BG's</span>" - open to the richer kids; Kappa Omega, aka "K O" - open to "good" girls, middle class, not too wild; Gamma Gamma Gamma, aka "<span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_7">Tri</span> Gamma" - open to the WILD girls, some of the rich, even some of the not so rich, but mostly middle class. Of course, that is just my estimation. I'm sure all three were comprised of all sorts of girls!<br /><br />I loved watching the sorority girls, they all had their shirts with the <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_8">Greek</span> letters on the front and the sorority name on the back. Girls were given names like "<span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_9">Spaz</span>" or "Wilder." I yearned to be a part of a sisterhood that would accept me, give me a pet name. When my sophomore year rolled around, I received a rush invitation to "K O" and "<span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_10">Tri</span> Gamma." I decided to go to the "K O" rush.<br /><br />I was so thrilled. I put on my best face when I went to the rush party. I was chipper, even fake. The party was at a HUGE historical home, right up my alley. I left the party that night feeling 100% positive that I would be voted in with "K O." My sister <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_11">Roni</span> was good friends with one of the sorority sisters, so I felt like I had an inside line.<br /><br />Friday could not come fast enough. I couldn't even concentrate on my school work. During Geometry, my mind would wander; how would I react when the truck load of "K O" girls pulled up at my door as a token of my acceptance into their sisterhood?? The game and sorority bids were all the talk that day at school. I was beside myself! The bus driver couldn't drive fast enough to get me home!<br /><br />I hurried up with all my Friday chores. I did everything Mom expected me to do in record speed. I changed into something to wear to the game, and I waited very impatiently for 6 pm to roll around. You see, that was how you found out if you were accepted. There was no letter of acceptance or otherwise. If you were picked up you were in; if you weren't, you were not.<br /><br />I kept looking out the window. I kept playing the scene in my mind. I knew a few of the "K O" girls, and I could picture us hugging and screaming and laughing. I had not quite worked out the situation with Mom, but I figured I would let my sister <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_12">Roni</span> tell her once I was gone.<br /><br />Six o'clock was quickly approaching, and I couldn't keep my face out of the window. <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_13">Roni</span> kept doing the chores while I kept pulling the blinds apart waiting for my ride. <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_14">Roni</span> was trying to hide her disgust over my lack of willingness to pitch in with the chores. But there was a look on her face. It was a look of reserve, one that closely resembled pity. And I didn't like it.<br /><br />She finally spoke up, and it shattered my dreams.<br /><br />"Rita, do you honestly think that the "K O" girls are gonna come rolling through this <strong><em>trailer park</em></strong> to pick you up???"<br /><br />I didn't say a word.<br /><br />I didn't have to.<br /><br />I didn't look out of the window anymore either.<br /><br />I had somehow forgotten that socially, I was completely outclassed. I lived in a 12 x 60 tin cracker box, and many of those girls lived in colonial styled homes. Those that didn't live in historical homes lived in respectable homes. For the most part, their houses didn't have wheels.<br /><br />In my zeal to make friends, I had forgotten that to most teenagers, especially to anyone with even a trace of snobbery, a trailer park was a thing of shame and embarrassment. I was so glad to get out of the mill village, I had forgotten that I lived in a dingy trailer park on the wrong side of town.</p><p>I had forgotten that most would fail to see who or what lives in the house. I felt I was as charming and friendly as any of the other girls. I just wanted a chance. But I knew I would never get it because of where I lived. I was even ashamed of it; as soon as my sister had made that comment, I decided that if the "K O" girls <em>did</em> come for me, I wouldn't go to the door. I would pretend I didn't live there.<br /><br />But, I never had to lie because they never came. I knew <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_15">Roni</span> never meant to hurt me; she only meant to make me see the folly of my actions. I finally changed out of my super fabulous clothes that were meant to impress the sorority sisters and accepted the fact that I would be spending the evening at home. </p><p>I spent the rest of the weekend closed up in my cracker box, hoping and praying that none of my friends would call and tell me they got in a sorority. Sure enough, those that were my close friends spent Friday night at home as well.<br /><br />I did find out on the following Monday (through <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_16">Roni's</span> "K O" friend) that I was only one vote short of not making it into the sorority. After three black balls, a candidate is "out." I had two black balls against me, and the last person to vote black balled me. My sister's friend asked her to reconsider, but for whatever reason, she wouldn't.<br /><br />Admittedly, that news did make me feel a little better. But more than that, it set me on a new path that I continued on through out high school and college. It's a path that has taught me that the colossal historical home can house a vacant individual that offers only judgement and a small tin trailer can hold a person who can offer true friendship. </p><p>It's the path that has taught me that it's not the house, but the inhabitant who dwells inside.</p>Ritahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15713132787151439382noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1179113753145187755.post-61627983428384924462009-11-06T00:09:00.002-05:002009-11-06T00:26:33.438-05:00Searching for an excuse...<span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">Facebook</span> is not all that time consuming, is it? I mean, how much can it hinder my blog?<br /><br />Evidently, a great deal. Not to mention <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">home school</span> endeavors that are constantly met with challenges. This poor blog has ended up like a few other of my projects: it started with a bang, and ended with a fizzle.<br /><br />And I don't want to fail to mention that I have reconnected with friends that I haven't seen for years, all because of <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">Facebook</span>. But I never thought it would take it away from my blog.<br /><br />What have I been up to? Wow...school, of course. And a few weeks ago, my parents had their birthdays (yes, their birthday is on the SAME day, just two years apart). I made a trip to NC to visit both of them. It was a nice surprise for Mom, and all the daughters were able to be there! We planned a big meal. I enjoyed doing most of the cooking, and I even got to do a little bit of sewing for my sister Sandy. It was so nice to get together for a NON holiday occasion: we didn't have to worry with all the hustle and bustle of the holidays. Not that I don't enjoy that, but for once, we sisters were able to enjoy a long evening of after meal conversation!<br /><br />Christmas play practice has started at the church, so.... Christmas is now officially just a down hill slide away! I love this time of year. I just hope Iwill be disciplined enough to stop by my blog more and describe the view!<br /><br />Up Next: The Day I Waited, but Nobody Came...Ritahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15713132787151439382noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1179113753145187755.post-19735315257550832302009-08-21T23:36:00.041-04:002009-08-22T10:30:26.309-04:00End of Summer- Family VacationThe title of this post rings with busy-<span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">ness</span>. I've been very negligent of my <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">bloggy</span>, but I promise to be back to a more faithful routine in the fall. So much has gone on this summer, my blog was low on the list!<br /><br />We had a wonderful vacation this year, and I didn't even get hurt!!! <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">LOL</span>! The weather was heavenly... 75 degrees, and some days it was cooler than that. Chilly nights and mornings, morning fires in the fireplace, brisk mountain air...it was what a vacation was meant to be-rest and relaxation. Bro. <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_3">Bryson</span> and Mrs. Kim, along with their children, came up to the cabin on Tuesday and Thursday. We had such a great time with them! We are hoping that next year we can book our cabins the same week and have an entire week together.<br /><br />Here are some photos:<br /><br /><br /><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5372652881415682178" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgwMJBSJFK8Tp_K8XySpQaBRwzVvlUPsf0lv1m8souP0oZrF9aJIBuJi2yH2sdKWEl9ZAj09DgaSV2VgfHhvJBMmiuku6iA-g1y-UYugWx3hrpyrMtL0lH9Nh_o7ccsl8A4UfFBKubTZhyx/s320/hello+043.JPG" border="0" /> <p align="center">Our Cabin-The Antioch</p><p align="center"></p><p align="center"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgdEodffHnu5hUrzUv_4HEa2X962fgz07jfRd7p6QfVB6uPUnm5QsiR__mOX5Fk-LbCtt1Kf_QCIub3RObCnE8f3WfgYzaOlDY5-DD2-3mhh7x3__-yEkgTjk-N7B2HmEZ6Qshj1RJO-3nF/s1600-h/hello+041.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5372652494689635986" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgdEodffHnu5hUrzUv_4HEa2X962fgz07jfRd7p6QfVB6uPUnm5QsiR__mOX5Fk-LbCtt1Kf_QCIub3RObCnE8f3WfgYzaOlDY5-DD2-3mhh7x3__-yEkgTjk-N7B2HmEZ6Qshj1RJO-3nF/s320/hello+041.JPG" border="0" /></a><br /><br /></p><div align="center"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjiJ0EXd7Dgwmh6i_7mMy8zcbhn1h8GWHlCsLpCEMEQkMstyO0rXxDFlN0OCHxqgjjYbRkulG_oP9BToo7Vwy-AkYjEp2VB1akSV2HGhZGhGY5vBCxNp1vp6VOryN7usQyd73MwG33i30kf/s1600-h/hello+069.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5372652157618795218" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjiJ0EXd7Dgwmh6i_7mMy8zcbhn1h8GWHlCsLpCEMEQkMstyO0rXxDFlN0OCHxqgjjYbRkulG_oP9BToo7Vwy-AkYjEp2VB1akSV2HGhZGhGY5vBCxNp1vp6VOryN7usQyd73MwG33i30kf/s320/hello+069.JPG" border="0" /></a> View of the Antioch from the Frog Pond</div><div align="center"></div><div align="center"><br /><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhfZ7AnDRg9yDzKW_58g8FNazKogp-4OCwDfdAThrARhyphenhyphenWSAj4wexqZ75WMeIqtJEvD7I4NjbRyEOsJMuLg4sY-x2A7vSMcUEEgJ4V8JrIuGjYJMfRWPMj9ujnP7v8pWZoJYalws1ezKBIB/s1600-h/hello+077.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5372651750699579026" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 240px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 320px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhfZ7AnDRg9yDzKW_58g8FNazKogp-4OCwDfdAThrARhyphenhyphenWSAj4wexqZ75WMeIqtJEvD7I4NjbRyEOsJMuLg4sY-x2A7vSMcUEEgJ4V8JrIuGjYJMfRWPMj9ujnP7v8pWZoJYalws1ezKBIB/s320/hello+077.JPG" border="0" /></a> The sidewalk I stepped off of last year and tore three ligaments<br /><br /><br /><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgbNm_4y9CXvxgadQR8M2TMpCaOTutmCkhg3Wf3l239xewFEBHhLoSM7chyphenhyphen-sZxPFTvrF28qEmon5z1q9SUtrSwmaEXpMZTT_JuwmrGj_vRx9luNHV_fVUqU6QTqbaeVu2YUBLXKdUB7cj-/s1600-h/hello+100.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5372651372747140322" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgbNm_4y9CXvxgadQR8M2TMpCaOTutmCkhg3Wf3l239xewFEBHhLoSM7chyphenhyphen-sZxPFTvrF28qEmon5z1q9SUtrSwmaEXpMZTT_JuwmrGj_vRx9luNHV_fVUqU6QTqbaeVu2YUBLXKdUB7cj-/s320/hello+100.JPG" border="0" /></a> Fun on the paddle boats<br /><br /><br /><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi6juXICCk2Fh-BVWujQ_1fLaJswyTZ-Ud2sCLrWw6NyjhtahXaWIto5E_k0BNJlOKpTXotOXXhsog8H9d02MVAGsIRh3Gu_M-dl5VNhRSkOh88WtyBMgfP_yany4Zwiry6mvF1y-f2bFFT/s1600-h/hello+189.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5372650511054171362" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi6juXICCk2Fh-BVWujQ_1fLaJswyTZ-Ud2sCLrWw6NyjhtahXaWIto5E_k0BNJlOKpTXotOXXhsog8H9d02MVAGsIRh3Gu_M-dl5VNhRSkOh88WtyBMgfP_yany4Zwiry6mvF1y-f2bFFT/s320/hello+189.JPG" border="0" /></a>Kevin and I on the hiking trail to High <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_4">Bethel</span><br /><br /><br /><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiwHZFk__O6f3j5perGZcFRw3fY5wSxcRc48SHwsN7-AIlMjNPFab-sBsorD3hQS2OPzgFFnqhL6dcf1_od64krr6-dNUpHH7NALZiYy8s5UVAMybSS7Y4PS6Fjj9Qi3Cn646dUTeAJnQEs/s1600-h/hello+238.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5372650097317893586" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiwHZFk__O6f3j5perGZcFRw3fY5wSxcRc48SHwsN7-AIlMjNPFab-sBsorD3hQS2OPzgFFnqhL6dcf1_od64krr6-dNUpHH7NALZiYy8s5UVAMybSS7Y4PS6Fjj9Qi3Cn646dUTeAJnQEs/s320/hello+238.JPG" border="0" /></a> Jordan and Savannah stayed way ahead of us on the hike!<br /><br /><br /><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj2Y_42rd1P2Xg6O3V33HDR4AqnUc-uSDJdf-OUo8EUraL7rkbbmUP5-HmsGCCoo2sVNCQUVUVEPLCD2fZ3PrfbBSMp-_tuThkwhfpoygvRsDNlWtobjFdhFMZWM_y1ZHIom5a-sYmHWA6I/s1600-h/hello+283.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5372649669381181762" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj2Y_42rd1P2Xg6O3V33HDR4AqnUc-uSDJdf-OUo8EUraL7rkbbmUP5-HmsGCCoo2sVNCQUVUVEPLCD2fZ3PrfbBSMp-_tuThkwhfpoygvRsDNlWtobjFdhFMZWM_y1ZHIom5a-sYmHWA6I/s320/hello+283.JPG" border="0" /></a>Beautiful grove of trees<br /><br /><br /><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEggKG8ukKGf3AlWN8vWkTnbSCmyOP1ZlMGIccsA9wTvOb3CYIatJO4qOop6-qHSIKETUEH53SHtEI5Y8nS3J_vq1RZ3EBUSTTgd39e9IMMYiPtt1-sl19WfAjCjuilQSBpxDwic0NqM6CYI/s1600-h/hello+298.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5372649248259273890" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 240px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 320px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEggKG8ukKGf3AlWN8vWkTnbSCmyOP1ZlMGIccsA9wTvOb3CYIatJO4qOop6-qHSIKETUEH53SHtEI5Y8nS3J_vq1RZ3EBUSTTgd39e9IMMYiPtt1-sl19WfAjCjuilQSBpxDwic0NqM6CYI/s320/hello+298.JPG" border="0" /></a> The bottom sign reads "Bear Sanctuary"<br /><br /><br /><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEieYZv4hvsKQ36alrwqovEZwN3cBFcUXJVg5CywcjmG0tKCbnqdLtQKeki3fKWEAa8gA2pe4FA_qI2Jcd0b2v-CW2y6G8KP_3vZ1bYoIYOTYwOFxp6uk7pUEhztBw4gZlYfPNdlQzBAJPMA/s1600-h/hello+313.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5372648801622722210" style="DISPLAY: block; 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MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhdn0jonp4QA_53PJauAVCq0j-ztYeawLN4DmTnhfDbRsc2Qmv91WSNBYs1yb8vgLGnRqtPoOvEQgrhRF4-dMAD_19xAsEv_VtX5oOUBivNErj-wQZWvKjtt4BmYHeyR31fLeeyvc0GJbt8/s320/hello+346.JPG" border="0" /></a>And this is what we saw when we made it to the top!!<br /><br /><br /><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhDrFBZTSDXp8JXqeNyfzeXj5Y_L6f4xWxj6SJliJ6UARPkh6IVQNrxQB-V_rct0y_Du7s2WvUc4eTOVZI_CRlZWHlDZmc_nhYCIxCQpJja5OVTD6H2z2R8UunS2ukM5zEk0IIpRgFHGy_I/s1600-h/hello+352.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5372646363234672178" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhDrFBZTSDXp8JXqeNyfzeXj5Y_L6f4xWxj6SJliJ6UARPkh6IVQNrxQB-V_rct0y_Du7s2WvUc4eTOVZI_CRlZWHlDZmc_nhYCIxCQpJja5OVTD6H2z2R8UunS2ukM5zEk0IIpRgFHGy_I/s320/hello+352.JPG" border="0" /></a>The <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_6">Whitmans</span> were so glad they made it to the top!! Even Shiloh made the hike!<br /><br /><br /><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh3PWM0R_0u64AcPnNGIXfYut3i9Z2G-HOcDvJazY0birewqsrtOZ_IjH58EttVXWD97CoviDsxgJzqQCG9AqNQg2D07CKQjGr1Q4lnTeOOl4lLevj_KcUyD2hyWFQ9CO0J8MH3MPGmEsP2/s1600-h/hello+355.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5372645942636054834" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh3PWM0R_0u64AcPnNGIXfYut3i9Z2G-HOcDvJazY0birewqsrtOZ_IjH58EttVXWD97CoviDsxgJzqQCG9AqNQg2D07CKQjGr1Q4lnTeOOl4lLevj_KcUyD2hyWFQ9CO0J8MH3MPGmEsP2/s320/hello+355.JPG" border="0" /></a> According to this monument, the trail took over 15 years to complete.<br /><br /><br /><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjpVDq92h8Nk8jFYmlrcJTs01yHFp6i-YbmQ50ZrNacbayYADS4_bJaV1BKl6u7mrFdViWs5sndjCIS2y0QW_CQiqaiJSv1MImsjgEzGTVNLkcRAgr9yDV2eHvESkFQdowVKoJod81PVcsH/s1600-h/hello+437.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5372645361367448578" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjpVDq92h8Nk8jFYmlrcJTs01yHFp6i-YbmQ50ZrNacbayYADS4_bJaV1BKl6u7mrFdViWs5sndjCIS2y0QW_CQiqaiJSv1MImsjgEzGTVNLkcRAgr9yDV2eHvESkFQdowVKoJod81PVcsH/s320/hello+437.JPG" border="0" /></a>Ethan <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_7">Bryson</span> and Jordan under Schoolhouse Falls<br /><br /></div><div><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjmnVtnmfCa_BDr9fHC9Dp3zRnZQ2-pZO2U5s_j64KHcOf-AEz4pmR54PBoA_iPRB63j_X8JXtqrbkz5TK2xHNljcIv9sy0VA8My5Jf3pT4MThLIPKGyEu8zMxLyPAWk5Kj-h9FlmLRHNn7/s1600-h/hello+440.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5372645103501870626" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjmnVtnmfCa_BDr9fHC9Dp3zRnZQ2-pZO2U5s_j64KHcOf-AEz4pmR54PBoA_iPRB63j_X8JXtqrbkz5TK2xHNljcIv9sy0VA8My5Jf3pT4MThLIPKGyEu8zMxLyPAWk5Kj-h9FlmLRHNn7/s320/hello+440.JPG" border="0" /></a> Lovely! But I opted out on this hike!<br /><br /><br /><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhEr6Sf2g-rYRyuxs2_T9UX60L78LmI-jnpnMmMW3mu_bJAKjGwCADkvmMV6yMsEjeZuYcg5ODucNMx0PpSdXQxNM2IpZK0hyg_1UnVhxqNBKMHrTKxY8X8dsP8sFz7ne8TtoG-hAATwtAi/s1600-h/hello+442.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5372644974754278386" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhEr6Sf2g-rYRyuxs2_T9UX60L78LmI-jnpnMmMW3mu_bJAKjGwCADkvmMV6yMsEjeZuYcg5ODucNMx0PpSdXQxNM2IpZK0hyg_1UnVhxqNBKMHrTKxY8X8dsP8sFz7ne8TtoG-hAATwtAi/s320/hello+442.JPG" border="0" /></a>Evan, Ellison, Jordan, and Savannah behind the Falls<br /></div><div></div><div><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiKCvZYYu7gS6K4652s2IyvN1jpQu6AYukQxc4zlIkVYBLfjYXNted4TOgjkRslc4yqiWsCN6W6trkk6Fi85TfbjIoTZZcF2pNhZ0SsbXNg3ozefqgG0Ak94yS063fTjKh_IN7ajyC1SkFc/s1600-h/hello+465.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5372644668047209266" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiKCvZYYu7gS6K4652s2IyvN1jpQu6AYukQxc4zlIkVYBLfjYXNted4TOgjkRslc4yqiWsCN6W6trkk6Fi85TfbjIoTZZcF2pNhZ0SsbXNg3ozefqgG0Ak94yS063fTjKh_IN7ajyC1SkFc/s320/hello+465.JPG" border="0" /></a>Kevin and Bro. <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_8">Bryson</span> resting before hiking back to the cabin<br /><br /><br /><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjgxRlMqvlM7MwGwHXkfB5MecgxMA0dEli-FJWQbG0jWCj94OxpaAa-il3eVCnu_mwVBTkldKT6wiBkXxdxYJTyI0Y4qvadqCaYyIpV2PhvglfJNmFdGwtFUz3RCkMgfg8lO-UEIF8WKAIc/s1600-h/hello+478.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5372644398320812178" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjgxRlMqvlM7MwGwHXkfB5MecgxMA0dEli-FJWQbG0jWCj94OxpaAa-il3eVCnu_mwVBTkldKT6wiBkXxdxYJTyI0Y4qvadqCaYyIpV2PhvglfJNmFdGwtFUz3RCkMgfg8lO-UEIF8WKAIc/s320/hello+478.JPG" border="0" /></a> The "secret" entrance to the trail to Schoolhouse Falls. There were many trails and waterfalls around our cabin, but we only hiked a couple of them.<br /><br /><br /><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh47GUNJhLN7wPoifeQEwmIkLJz-XemZM-TqHk0w1Jqr9vtFWIYMsNrOvsWoL6I2HcjF94sotzR82N4ia-cWRQZyP36nmcB0kGp0qRqt1hKZG8WWGU9EmGm3MGS4s1QJqqI_5gpcEfLKr22/s1600-h/hello+488.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5372644018270227522" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh47GUNJhLN7wPoifeQEwmIkLJz-XemZM-TqHk0w1Jqr9vtFWIYMsNrOvsWoL6I2HcjF94sotzR82N4ia-cWRQZyP36nmcB0kGp0qRqt1hKZG8WWGU9EmGm3MGS4s1QJqqI_5gpcEfLKr22/s320/hello+488.JPG" border="0" /></a> A nice fire one morning....it was about 58 degrees that morning.<br /><br /><br /><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg8uycJUkJeRYlvbyLTS47r9fIvm59QiaJ4c65sYms2sm7x3rNKbVn52_y2p6dDSh8SY-wzJVNPX7gBvi4pntuo_suh76OJG3pGOUrcREf0Tml4vJgdp0pBZ45UbgnuCKyHof_VoAUdRyhC/s1600-h/hello+500.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5372643642873671186" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg8uycJUkJeRYlvbyLTS47r9fIvm59QiaJ4c65sYms2sm7x3rNKbVn52_y2p6dDSh8SY-wzJVNPX7gBvi4pntuo_suh76OJG3pGOUrcREf0Tml4vJgdp0pBZ45UbgnuCKyHof_VoAUdRyhC/s320/hello+500.JPG" border="0" /></a> Savannah walking back from the Chapel/recreation room<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi4n4oitMeaCX8dyzGhrnfmUscfugYJeeO2uceT0gRXd4woS2kjJuV8D8pPVLH-Su76dul4x8igsZlgYYlMlnEi6OvhYnDI4pqj4rA8mZr0_t2L18sSLQqJmJo8TAmznVPew5pAd6XzqZMk/s1600-h/Vacation+001.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5372641885611895474" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi4n4oitMeaCX8dyzGhrnfmUscfugYJeeO2uceT0gRXd4woS2kjJuV8D8pPVLH-Su76dul4x8igsZlgYYlMlnEi6OvhYnDI4pqj4rA8mZr0_t2L18sSLQqJmJo8TAmznVPew5pAd6XzqZMk/s320/Vacation+001.JPG" border="0" /></a> We were thrilled about visiting <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_9">Biltmore</span>!<br /><br /><br /><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgf7H4HOHeUgJnioIYg2w_rbNT6Oe8ibR3maYgJp0SNDPdU57zQ9vQR40StJYHi1rlW7GlNqVoQzrYhNj4DHtSmCwndATHiGC6avNF7d_ezWKvS6uMcRt3SSqsNrONr1U-DbmsL1o0iCACP/s1600-h/Vacation+036.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5372641505008697042" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgf7H4HOHeUgJnioIYg2w_rbNT6Oe8ibR3maYgJp0SNDPdU57zQ9vQR40StJYHi1rlW7GlNqVoQzrYhNj4DHtSmCwndATHiGC6avNF7d_ezWKvS6uMcRt3SSqsNrONr1U-DbmsL1o0iCACP/s320/Vacation+036.JPG" border="0" /></a>Someone was nice enough to take our family picture<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgVlFi8-R-Q4oUfbv5DD5GlVg4IsPsV-6ifBRat9-NScHFhy9uLcqq0bv5XPvOrDS-KAaPA2hjg_n-30Uxzy-ffrwqXTFSxedfUP7c5YBKInseg_fNUOKSebaVUkLa9R2Ee7XPzalSejMxT/s1600-h/Vacation+049.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5372641002111920882" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgVlFi8-R-Q4oUfbv5DD5GlVg4IsPsV-6ifBRat9-NScHFhy9uLcqq0bv5XPvOrDS-KAaPA2hjg_n-30Uxzy-ffrwqXTFSxedfUP7c5YBKInseg_fNUOKSebaVUkLa9R2Ee7XPzalSejMxT/s320/Vacation+049.JPG" border="0" /></a>The outside of the grand staircase<br /><br /><br /><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhlCue4kMJ7XmVkgUEOwAxefYbrGy2Mz-SvGyba5c0GWzerUf08Pu6dqy7M_pYd5VjArYvn2MyFWRgGZMMV5lHPFuKuO7TBiS9f2u6UzczIWQYofkPknySM8lJ-IzgTH-9pnjGAjdmR_Opt/s1600-h/Vacation+052.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5372640569397505186" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 240px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 320px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhlCue4kMJ7XmVkgUEOwAxefYbrGy2Mz-SvGyba5c0GWzerUf08Pu6dqy7M_pYd5VjArYvn2MyFWRgGZMMV5lHPFuKuO7TBiS9f2u6UzczIWQYofkPknySM8lJ-IzgTH-9pnjGAjdmR_Opt/s320/Vacation+052.JPG" border="0" /></a> Me and my lovey<br /><br /><br /><div><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjYsf3Z_s4VuWUsuRDyBdBYCnNhXWDLnFk_DUuDpCumvoF1RLEZR0UhISVgzGY9kqKqba0Adv1Rqu2Li1xiFhntuAbZxKoApI2mttcOdlpJdkDN9LLbHZRsZLD11zi_EMNKBrcwZ2o9n-je/s1600-h/Vacation+065.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5372639590233403554" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjYsf3Z_s4VuWUsuRDyBdBYCnNhXWDLnFk_DUuDpCumvoF1RLEZR0UhISVgzGY9kqKqba0Adv1Rqu2Li1xiFhntuAbZxKoApI2mttcOdlpJdkDN9LLbHZRsZLD11zi_EMNKBrcwZ2o9n-je/s320/Vacation+065.JPG" border="0" /></a>View of the back of <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_10">Biltmore</span><br /><br /><br /><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhS1dcCfh2THhG0ludqDowjhkIury6KfH_QetMpuBeBOBpfzpkB1maWVcovRr9iS5KpZf6m9plzw5J2kf95GApvkxcDCGDLExayUHDfs-V2gF2Ro_WBU2IXN0brwHyotZBSKdLGvELumBz6/s1600-h/Vacation+075.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5372639335910424498" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhS1dcCfh2THhG0ludqDowjhkIury6KfH_QetMpuBeBOBpfzpkB1maWVcovRr9iS5KpZf6m9plzw5J2kf95GApvkxcDCGDLExayUHDfs-V2gF2Ro_WBU2IXN0brwHyotZBSKdLGvELumBz6/s320/Vacation+075.JPG" border="0" /></a> I loved how these trees and columns were entwined!<br /><br /><br /><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiONKt_l3WvCQrYvu7KCfAskE43Vlv1GUUQ1J_6tcTE73UZErUE1QDWKxCBLb8JrUYJn8uPtm9hjg0TPdAN3ht0UNd9VGkA3JE5SjahgZyLxaW6e3Rti9-WzCKkaX79Xq-EoWDaEVBjitQ_/s1600-h/Vacation+085.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5372639048301916450" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiONKt_l3WvCQrYvu7KCfAskE43Vlv1GUUQ1J_6tcTE73UZErUE1QDWKxCBLb8JrUYJn8uPtm9hjg0TPdAN3ht0UNd9VGkA3JE5SjahgZyLxaW6e3Rti9-WzCKkaX79Xq-EoWDaEVBjitQ_/s320/Vacation+085.JPG" border="0" /></a> <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_11">Jordy</span><br /><br /></div><div><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgVBpXc0XpgjFF0uDocptKdWdm_ifNIozdIDDxH66WegYKEg6wh-U-7cgjT3D8OMUo7_mM7Cml-nvRRoTh2OiXkkMIVO8uFgbTH6VgdfeAXjBRdJX0XDHrSrVTwWvdlS_sfetSr3oekryH9/s1600-h/Vacation+086.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5372638790982873490" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgVBpXc0XpgjFF0uDocptKdWdm_ifNIozdIDDxH66WegYKEg6wh-U-7cgjT3D8OMUo7_mM7Cml-nvRRoTh2OiXkkMIVO8uFgbTH6VgdfeAXjBRdJX0XDHrSrVTwWvdlS_sfetSr3oekryH9/s320/Vacation+086.JPG" border="0" /></a>Savannah<br /><br /><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg34xp2SVQL2tKN8qvwlQq3qGJYiOOzljvJ7Q2_lEXDO6Qr0ygs1VKoK9u3rX-TUAxACPtGF6EDKIUEKRiMUFfDum44dMNN_fofQFIrG3DL9z3VebRoZ2mjRFQg0VWCKeS3uaXrt1TiJGyF/s1600-h/Vacation+087.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5372638514617456114" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg34xp2SVQL2tKN8qvwlQq3qGJYiOOzljvJ7Q2_lEXDO6Qr0ygs1VKoK9u3rX-TUAxACPtGF6EDKIUEKRiMUFfDum44dMNN_fofQFIrG3DL9z3VebRoZ2mjRFQg0VWCKeS3uaXrt1TiJGyF/s320/Vacation+087.JPG" border="0" /></a> Daniel<br /><br /></div><div><br /><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgW4h8t-FzwG03pKtuR6sEIcdJdDLH8Uo-PUzTotb-ojOyGFJU3N3h7g5lSNC0zOTTlpLn2-nOEijbys0icB_HFKmSPSTfEENLx95sXC1FuwGUuvwbKDf8X8kyp52dBpEm8T4fRXTXHHGTG/s1600-h/Vacation+091.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5372638167572305554" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgW4h8t-FzwG03pKtuR6sEIcdJdDLH8Uo-PUzTotb-ojOyGFJU3N3h7g5lSNC0zOTTlpLn2-nOEijbys0icB_HFKmSPSTfEENLx95sXC1FuwGUuvwbKDf8X8kyp52dBpEm8T4fRXTXHHGTG/s320/Vacation+091.JPG" border="0" /></a> Another view of the grand staircase<br /><br /><br /><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEirR7rOJnA6ewBVtIDtmCMYf3cAtVojckMMKrINzLZvDH_oygZC5bwZxIs3rQp5KOgCQ7SfLllXggQnyGQy1ImfaaGcp8zZ10-RDW0CG1wQSZpqRRGNvrPzDtWGqrPnNRzC83HZ86Dq4IbM/s1600-h/Vacation+106.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5372637812272511746" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEirR7rOJnA6ewBVtIDtmCMYf3cAtVojckMMKrINzLZvDH_oygZC5bwZxIs3rQp5KOgCQ7SfLllXggQnyGQy1ImfaaGcp8zZ10-RDW0CG1wQSZpqRRGNvrPzDtWGqrPnNRzC83HZ86Dq4IbM/s320/Vacation+106.JPG" border="0" /></a>We drove back to the cabin on the Blue Ridge Parkway<br /><br /><br /><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgtx4Fq_Qm3MJf25V_gQHvshoxXgUkxzF1E1WEL-I_BJV0orB1opSfNbAbFY7oo875jHltmWQJjsc2NTdKiOByYsCyHH-UveUIilP-oMFns0SfoK4kpyRGrZAJbmPKfLwlvAd65SlD01VAr/s1600-h/Vacation+110.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5372637425365155858" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgtx4Fq_Qm3MJf25V_gQHvshoxXgUkxzF1E1WEL-I_BJV0orB1opSfNbAbFY7oo875jHltmWQJjsc2NTdKiOByYsCyHH-UveUIilP-oMFns0SfoK4kpyRGrZAJbmPKfLwlvAd65SlD01VAr/s320/Vacation+110.JPG" border="0" /></a> This is why I love western North Carolina!<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjEnqdVR_65kQbrJtdvMgk4hWNBh9B7g0WSAeBg_kKna7mfRy6NWrVO8eq_x_a6jgGeeFfknOnoR45lNW9yJEI9hyCrKceVUsjwLannCKen5NBZOEfjpSoEwC2QqeBBi92CxS93XDG5dVv5/s1600-h/Vacation+115.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5372637194465820946" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjEnqdVR_65kQbrJtdvMgk4hWNBh9B7g0WSAeBg_kKna7mfRy6NWrVO8eq_x_a6jgGeeFfknOnoR45lNW9yJEI9hyCrKceVUsjwLannCKen5NBZOEfjpSoEwC2QqeBBi92CxS93XDG5dVv5/s320/Vacation+115.JPG" border="0" /></a> It was hazy at this altitude, but if you look closely you can see a small village in hallow of the mountains. (center of the picture)</div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div>Ritahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15713132787151439382noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1179113753145187755.post-70880995051412722482009-07-22T14:36:00.003-04:002009-07-22T14:41:20.916-04:00A Time of War Part 2- To Every Thing a Season Chpt. 13Time-it was something that we wanted more of, yet it was something that we <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">abhorred</span>. We knew our time with Sandra was short, yet more time only meant more suffering.<em> If we could only stop the progression of the cancer just enough to keep her alive...just long enough to see Stephanie's baby....If...If....If....</em><br /><br /><br />Our lives were riddled with problems. In the midst of Sandra's illness and surgery to correct the colon blockage, Kevin and I had a huge obstacle to overcome. We suddenly found ourselves without a vehicle.<br /><br /><br />It was a Monday, January 30, 2006. We had been in Camden the weekend before, and I was doing my Monday run to the bank. The children and I loaded up in the minivan, went to the bank, and headed to the interstate to grab some lunch. We ordered at McDonald's and headed back to our humble little abode, also known as, the Church basement.<br /><br /><br />It was raining pretty steady, and just as I was about to turn into the Church parking lot, I noticed a red truck sitting in front of the Church. This concerned me just like it would concern anyone else that came home to a <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">strange</span> vehicle in their driveway. I was so caught up in trying to figure out who was in the red truck, I began turning into the Church parking lot without noticing that a car was coming. I was hit nearly head on. I saw the car just moments before impact, but it was too late.<br /><br /><br />Fortunately, we were unharmed, but the van was totaled. I mean, smashed to pieces. If there were any humor to the story, it would have been the fact that passengers of the vehicle I hit were two lawyers. They were very kind and helpful, and most of all, they didn't sue me for failing to <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">yield</span> the right of way.<br /><br /><br />But the whole ordeal left us in a <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_3">quandary</span>. We had to borrow a vehicle to visit my dying mother in law, at least until the insurance and the gap coverage paid off the van. Things weren't impossible, they were just more difficult. We especially didn't want to make Sandra feel like we were being put in a bad spot by coming to visit her every week. The last thing we wanted was to have her feeling guilty about us being there. And a borrowed vehicle would definitely make her feel that way.<br /><br /><br />The month of January was a whirlwind of events for Sandra. Her stay in the hospital was extended, with friends and family members constantly coming by to see Sandra. There was an overwhelming amount of <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">people</span> visiting her, but at times, it was just too much. It seemed that all of the "friends" thought they were her best friends, therefore trying to "make" Sandra eat just for them. It was frustrating to watch. There were times I just wanted to ask everyone to leave, but I was just a daughter in law-I had no right to do that.<br /><br /><br />It seems like Sandra's suffering would never end. Once the blockage was addressed, another issue cropped up. This time, we were all bracing ourselves. During all the testing to find her blockage, the doctor's had discovered a <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">blood</span> clot in Sandra's lung. It was sure to be fatal, with little or no warning. Up to this point, the doctors had not told Sandra or us how long she had to live. All we knew was that her cancer was "aggressive." But the news of the blood clot was something that could not be hidden.<br /><br /><br />One afternoon a couple of days after the blockage surgery, Dr. <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">McElveen</span> (and associate of Dr. <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_3">Babcock</span>) met us in the hallway outside of Sandra's hospital room wearing the gravest expression on his face. Jackie, Kevin, and I had already decided that we <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_4">weren't</span>' going to settle for vague answers: we needed to know how long Sandra had.<br /><br /><br />Dr. <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_5">McElveen</span> said, "I'm so sorry! It's terribly bad. I'm afraid it's worse than any of us can imagine."<br /><br /><br />"How long does she have? We need to know," Kevin said in a weak, trembling voice.<br /><br /><br />"It's hard to say. It's incurable-nothing we can do but make her comfortable."<br /><br /><br />"We need to know, and we WANT to know," I said, trying to be brave for my husband.<br /><br /><br />Jackie spoke up and said, "Doc, these are her children. Be straight with us for their sake. How long? It can't be very long, but <em>how </em>long?"<br /><br /><br />Dr. <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_6">McElveen</span> looked down and swallowed. "Anywhere from 3 weeks to three months. Six months at the longest, but I don't expect it to be that long. She is very sick. I'm so sorry." Upon those words, he shook our hands and patted our shoulders. I could sense the pity in his eyes, along with the look of helplessness.<br /><br /><br />As the doctor left us standing in the hallway outside Sandra's room, Kevin turned away and began to sob like a child.<em> </em>His face....oh his face looked just like a tender child who had lost his way in a department store, and his eyes cried deeper than the tears that steamed down his cheeks. It's as if his eyes were saying, "<em>Where's my mommy? Where's my mommy? I need my mommy!" </em>The look was not grief alone; it was pain. All the years of the motherly love and comfort that he had so enjoyed would soon be coming to an end.<br /><br /><br />One by one, Jackie, Kevin, and I pulled ourselves together so we could go back into Sandra's room. Dr. <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_7">McElveen</span> had told Sandra about the <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_8">blood clot</span> in her lung. Sandra's countenance was one of resignation. She informed us that she would like to talk to the children the next day. Stephanie, Kevin, and Jackie had some things they needed to say to Sandra, and she had some things she needed to say to them.Ritahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15713132787151439382noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1179113753145187755.post-49773891738172455962009-07-14T14:58:00.004-04:002009-07-14T18:50:06.015-04:00GuiltWhy do we pastor's wives find guilt to be so attractive? It seems the pastor's wife can find a glint of beauty in guilt, making it somewhat of a necessary evil. If you aren't a pastor's wife, you may not understand what I mean. But if you are a PW and still don't know what I mean, let me explain.<br /><br />The ministry is a wonderful thing, but without exception, every ministry will have trials. We survive them all by the Grace of God but not without wounds and scars. The smallest hiccup in the ministry can cause the pastor's wife to look inward. Even a seasoned PW can experience unhealthy introspect.<br /><br />How does guilt come into play? Most of the time it isn't because the pastor's wife feels guilty about something, such as a sin she has committed. I'm speaking of a guilt of an entirely different nature.<br /><br />The guilt I'm speaking of is the guilt that riddles her mind when she feels that she is to blame when in fact she is not. She wants to assume some guilt because if <strong><em>she </em></strong>is the one to blame, then there is at least an explanation to the problems around her. If <strong><em>she</em></strong> is responsible, then perhaps she can do something to change things. Guilt puts the blame on <strong><em>her</em></strong>, instead of someone else. For the PW, taking blame can feel better than placing blame, if for no other reason, for the sake of keeping the peace.<br /><br />With a matronly nature, a pastor's wife just doesn't like to see things going sour. How many Mom's like to see their kids fight? A PW feels the same way when problems arise in the church; a need to mediate, to equalize, and to make things as they were before quickly ignites. The problem is, rarely can it ever be handled quite that easily. And while most of us <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0"><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">PWs</span> </span>know our place when dealing with church troubles and would NEVER step out of bounds, we <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1"><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">compartmentalize</span></span> the entire situation in our mind and allocate guilt to a place where we think it will best act as a salve.<br /><br />Guilt that comes mostly in the form of, "If I would have just been more Christ like," or "If I had just not said anything," or "If I had just noticed this...." yet knowing deep inside that the situation was no fault of our own. In some very <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2"><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">inexplicably</span></span> dark way, it soothes us. Yet it shouldn't.<br /><br />If there is one flaw of a pastor's wife that stands out above any other <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_3">imperfection</span> we may have, it is our constant self mutilation in this area of "was it me?" It's not that the pastor's wife never needs to evaluate herself and see where she stands before her Lord, but the need for a continual autopsy is nonexistent. The Holy Spirit is perfectly capable of showing us our error, and nothing is heavier than the guilt of knowing we have failed our Father in heaven. HE really has something better in mind for the women he has chosen to serve with His faithful men.<br /><br />Maybe we are prone to feeling and feeding this guilt because of our emotions, but we can't operate off of feelings. It's probably natural to feel this on <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_4">occasion</span>. But living in this state of mind is torture!<br /><br />How often do I find a glint of beauty in guilt? I'd love to say 0% of the time, but the truth is, I deal with the thought nearly every time problems arise. I realize that I'm not responsible for <strong><em>every </em></strong>problem our church encounters. I will shoulder any guilt that is rightfully mine, but need I shoulder any other?? I just try to resist the urge to make guilt the necessary evil. How often am I successful? Well, I'm aiming for 100% mark.Ritahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15713132787151439382noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1179113753145187755.post-71131905522269836162009-07-09T23:55:00.004-04:002009-07-10T00:18:48.922-04:00All That's Upcoming and All That Has BeenI have been smitten with a touch of laziness.<br /><br />It's so hard to jump back into something when you've been away from it for so long.<br /><br />Let's see...I have had a great deal going on...I have a new member of the Whitman family. I got a parakeet for my birthday last week, something I had been wanting for a long time. Sydney is doing quite well, but Shiloh is just a tad bid jealous! As IF anything could ever take his place! I'd like to see Sydney crawling up in our bed at night or getting free run of the house 24/7. Fat chance.<br /><br />But dogs don't know how to reason, and the poor little pooch looks so threatened.<br /><br />Kevin also acquired some goldfish. Long story that by reason of boredom needs to be made really short. The three fish that remain are doing good. No names yet. They need not worry. IF they survive, we will never forget them-even if they never have names.<br /><br />This weekend we have a choir workshop planned. This is great news, but I am very nervous. Bro. Doug <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">Raynes</span> and his daughter Natalie will be coming to help our choir in several areas. Natalie is what I consider a prodigy, so I am obviously very, very nervous. She's not the slightest bit uppity, it's just I know the enormous amount of skill and talent this young lady possesses. Me playing in front of Natalie is kinda like a <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">beggar</span> flaunting a 10 dollar bill in front of a millionaire. Know what I mean??? Anyway, it should prove to be a real blessing to the church and the choir. We are very excited to have the <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">Raynes</span> with us on Saturday.<br /><br />The following Saturday, the 18<span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_3">th</span>, we will have our monthly youth meeting. We will be having an old friend of ours in for the services, Bro. Brian <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_4">Enlow</span>. Time and space don't allow me to tell all the stories our families share, but there are many!! I'm so glad for what God has done for Bro. <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_5">Enlow</span> and his family!<br /><br />And finally, my family and I should be going on <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_6">vacation the</span> first week of August. We are so excited, not to mention we greatly need the time away! The pressures of the ministry, Kevin's job, <strong><em>and </em></strong>my health issues....I am really looking forward to the time away. A week in <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_7">CanaanLand</span>/Lake <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_8">Toxaway</span>, I am <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_9">soooo</span> needing it!<br /><br />I am almost finished with A Time of War Part 2. It will be posted shortly.<br /><br />Thanks for faithfully stopping by readers!Ritahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15713132787151439382noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1179113753145187755.post-9186223643453276722009-06-25T02:10:00.002-04:002009-06-25T02:19:01.299-04:00PrayersPrayers are so needed at this time.<br /><br />A family in my Church is going through a very difficult time. Yesterday, one of our ladies found out that she most likely has breast cancer. This determination was made based on an ultrasound and mammogram. She will go for a surgeon consultation on Friday morning.<br /><br />Also pray for her husband. He is in need of a kidney transplant and is waiting to go on a transplant list. She takes him to his dialysis 3 times a week. The days ahead will be very trying for them, so all that read, please pray for the <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">Cowart</span> Family. They need your prayers. They are a faithful family that has served our local church for many years now. We feel so helpless.....we want to do more to help them. I'm just thankful that prayer is <em>the</em> greatest thing we can possibly do!<br /><br />I'm glad that God is the Captain of the ship and charts our course, even through the storm.Ritahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15713132787151439382noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1179113753145187755.post-60240498227180489802009-06-22T15:34:00.002-04:002009-06-22T15:41:18.106-04:00I have not forgottenI know it seems that I have, but I have not forgotten about my blog. Really.<br /><br />I hate to labor the point with multiple updates concerning doctor's appointments, etc. But...that has basically been the hold up.<br /><br />Frown, frown, frown.....<br /><br />I have had part 2 of A Time of War partially done for over a week now, I just have to dig deep to mine all the important details.<br /><br />Fragile smile....<br /><br />I promise to do better! Especially for all my readers in Alabama and SC...you guys are always visiting! Thank you so much! Sorry to have disappointed you for so long.<br /><br />Just an FYI. We homeschool year round, so summer isn't to us what it is to everyone else. We will be plugging away until next school year begins. Those dratted surgeries make school tough!<br /><br />I will be updating and finishing The Seasons Series this week. So, please, please, please, check back later!Ritahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15713132787151439382noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1179113753145187755.post-67128352250209027182009-05-22T08:28:00.008-04:002009-05-22T08:54:05.129-04:00Live Well in Your HomeTo live well in your home, place 10-15 plants around your home. This will maximize optimum health benefits. Really??? I should have consulted the tag on the flamingo flower houseplant about my health problems looooong ago!<br /><br />Last night hubby, the kids, and I went to Home Depot and bought some flowers. I only purchased one indoor plant (I've got to find room for all these health maximizers). Here's some pix of what I bought. I was up bright and early this morning, actually before it was ever bright, getting these babies transplanted. I'm leaving the tomato plants to hubby. Those are his pets!!<br /><div align="center"><br />Preparing to plant on my rickety old planting table, God bless it!!</div><p><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5338626607635064882" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgNsKi87jvGCemSVIW8o6Uk06sZcdjlUAeSyOF7wSsQstXMHrg8S53Jsq__vCUzIPf__HOk-502v0htUFB03QXKWfP9SoQifpvblrCiwJsqDG0Fzbb7IFIfhArfnta6YrHEQFF5I0l9ZWeZ/s320/misc+and+flowers+087.JPG" border="0" /></p><p align="center"></p><p align="center">The Flamingo Flower that will hopefully maximize my well being!!</p><p align="center"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5338626305752152930" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 286px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 320px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhnT7FG5muDbP3QgdCOkyDhOB0eREYNBY4hg_Y3vhbdHMMH4rfPG9bdwE56s1SJOk5UT_54EEtmqjE2r2qiWERE3BRfFXs_1ngMlz2dDNe6uKhRpi6KZGSctpv92PLNujlDNTzO6_7Dg90n/s320/misc+and+flowers+088.JPG" border="0" /></p><p align="center"></p><p align="center">Planting my favorite flower-Lantana</p><p><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5338626919742874114" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjdmhJbNaU7sZMZlU2zMnC34N85PrEQMiRzzUjXg3Nd5w02cr2FBwuzVdqBqD8CAfjTAZXy8D6idT_KCq5qIb2EvWBGmHj73GorxcRRuTW30E2Fojm4pN7uKGg4UQBiFn-gqQ583LaUPh5L/s320/misc+and+flowers+090.JPG" border="0" /><br /></p><p align="center">Lantana-Dallas Red<br /><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5338627190478958658" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjMbiUXV1x4z05WCq4iLkv2DCdWKQKEBwxop0hqEgyzVuDTsFhYiL1umTOX3u_BCNDugly_9OgS73znG2SeFHnlcjESDmHyONEAoDxzWs_DptSXmt4hB5-WzGcoF9ni1q7mAUm2EVeCMlRk/s320/misc+and+flowers+089.JPG" border="0" /></p>Ritahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15713132787151439382noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1179113753145187755.post-11047725931001635562009-05-19T01:30:00.007-04:002009-05-19T04:03:33.332-04:00A Time of War Part 1- To Every Thing a Season Chpt. 13After our time with Kevin's family, we headed back to Georgia to celebrate Christmas at home. I had been under so much stress and pressure, a normal sinus infection had reduced me to a hollow eyed shell of a person. I was so sick that Kevin and I celebrated Christmas with our kids on Christmas Eve, something completely against our tradition.<br /><br />Christmas Day fell on a Sunday, but I was so sick I was unable to attend church that day. I had huge plans to bake several cakes, several pies, and our usual Christmas Day finger foods. I didn't have the strength to get out of the bed. Kevin spent Sunday afternoon between services baking and cooking; he wanted to hold true to our tradition! Since we lived at the church, we had invited any and every one to stay after service Sunday night to have some desserts and finger foods.<br /><br />But I was completely unable to get out of bed. The festivities I so loved couldn't even motivate me. I had been nursing a terrible sinus infection for several weeks, and with all the heath issues, stress, and traveling, I had succumbed to the infection like it was the plague.<br /><br />I was also heartbroken. With the friends in our church just a few feet away, I laid in the bed-knowing that there were families that were missing that year. The people that had left in July and August weren't part of our Christmas...I didn't like it one bit. My heart yearned for things to be as they had always been, but that would never happen. One of the families that left had always, ALWAYS, purchased gifts for me, Kevin, and our children. It didn't matter how much money they did or didn't have. They ALWAYS gave us gifts. It was a gesture of gratitude that genuinely made me feel loved. It wasn't the gift or the price; it was the thought. As a Pastor's wife, it humbled me and made me happy to know that someone cared enough to go above and beyond. But that special element was missing. And I felt like any thoughts they had of us this year was hopelessly negative.<br /><br />The New Year rolled around, and after a visit to the doctor, I slowly began to get over the sinus infection. We had talked to Sandra and Jackie a few days after the New Year to see how their Christmas get together with Sandra's family had gone. They all had a wonderful time! Aunt Linda had even said that Sandra seemed so happy that aside from seeing her in a wheelchair, it was as if she had never been sick. In fact, Linda told me that while Sandra was sitting at the dinner table, it wasn't noticeable that she was bound by a wheelchair. Sandra laughed and talked with her mother, brother, and sister-in-law around the table. No one would have ever known how sick she was, and for just one evening, the awful nightmare seemed to be the farthest thing from reality.<br /><br />With the New Year came more appointments with the oncologist and the spine doctor. Since Sandra's oncologist could arrange local appointments at the county hospital, we didn't have to drive far for her routine appointments. We had arrived in Camden on our usual day-Tuesday. Kevin's employer was very good to him, but he had used all of his personal leave time. Any time taken off of work would be excused under the Family Medical Leave Act, but it would be without pay. Even though we didn't have a house payment at the time, it made things difficult for us. A cut in income was hard to sustain, but we wanted to be at as many appointments as possible.<br /><br />We took Sandra to the hospital on Thursday to see Dr. <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0"><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">Babcock</span></span>. He had prescribed several medications for Sandra, all of which had to be regulated and adjusted from time to time. Jackie and I helped Sandra get on the examination table. She had difficulty laying flat on her back, so she sat up until the doctor came in room.<br /><br />As he began the examination, she gingerly laid back on the table. The primary concern was her inability to walk. The radiation treatments on her spine were completed, and the next step was more therapy, including hydrotherapy. Dr. <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1"><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">Babcock</span></span> raised and lowered Sandra's legs one at a time. With her right leg in the air at a 45 degree angle, he moved her right foot toward her head. Her foot began to twitch uncontrollably. Dr. <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2"><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">Babcock</span></span> referred to this as <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_3"><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_3">clonus</span></span>, an involuntary muscle contraction that could be caused from spinal cord damage or worse, a neurological problem.<br /><br />Jackie and I stepped out of the examination area and spoke with Dr. <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_4"><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_4">Babcock</span></span>.<br /><br />"That's not a good sign, sir," said the doctor. He explained that even though the cancer was gone from her spine, there could be damage that would keep her from walking. The only remedy, if that were the case, would be another surgery. Jackie cringed at the words...there was no way Sandra would consent to another surgery. And all of us knew how devastating it would be for Sandra to learn that without surgery, she would <em>never</em> walk. Jackie decided almost immediately to keep this news from Sandra.<br /><br />The doctor did adjust her pain medication. It seemed that Sandra was constantly nauseated and unable to eat. He determined that her pain medicine was too strong. But in my mind, I couldn't help but wonder if the real source of the problem was the mass that had been found on her gal bladder that had not yet been addressed.<br /><br />Sandra's nausea had become worse. She had no appetite, which worried us all. She would occasionally ask for potato soup. I would try to make it as quickly as possible, but she usually could not wait the 45 minutes it took to make it. She would moan and cry because of the pain in her stomach. I felt so guilty for not having her soup ready in a shorter amount of time. I felt so powerless to help her and meet her needs.<br /><br />As the month of January passed by, Sandra's needs outgrew her help. Jackie decided to hire a nurse for the evening shift. The need for 24 hour care was evident. It signaled a steady decline in Sandra's condition. She was inevitable getting worse.<br /><br />Even with 24 hour care, Sandra couldn't maintain a level of comfort. She had begun to throw up after every meal,even if she only ate a small amount. Not only was she vomiting <em>every </em>time she ate, she had also stopped having bowel movements. After only a few days of being unable to digest her food, she was admitted to her local hospital to be evaluated.<br /><br />Sandra spent several weeks in the hospital. There were constant x-rays, CT scans, and <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_5"><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_5">bloodwork</span></span>. Sometimes x-rays were taken twice a day. Sandra grew weary of all the testing; it seemed that none of her issues were being resolved by subjecting herself to all the needles and cold CT tables. She began to act very rude towards the nurses and orderlies. We tried our best to encourage her to behave, but she was tired of the endless testing.<br /><br />One afternoon I was alone with Sandra at the hospital. Jackie had to work, and Kevin and the children had to go to his mother's house to get some much needed rest. Sandra was having a great deal of abdominal pain. We knew it was stemming from whatever was preventing her from holding down any food. While I was trying to give Sandra some water, she began to cry out in pain. It was obvious how much pain she was feeling, for her cry was one of terror. I frantically buzzed for the nurse. I'm not sure the nurses station could hear me talk; Sandra's sobbing cries surely drowned out the sound of my voice.<br /><br />Her cry sounded like a person being tortured, and torture it was to hear it! I grabbed her hands and said, "Call on God, Sandra. Call on Jesus Christ!"<br /><br />As I said those words, a <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_6"><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_6">CNA</span></span> came running into the room. I fell on my knees beside Sandra's hospital bed and began to pray fervently for God to help Sandra. She cried out, "Oh, Jesus, please....please help me.....I can't take this God.....please stop this pain....Oh, God....I need you!"<br /><br />I felt the <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_7"><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_7">CNA</span></span> whizzing around me, trying to get pain <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_8"><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_8">meds</span></span> pumped into Sandra's IV. I tried to stay out of her way, but once I felt the nurse whiz by me again, I sprang to my feet. I leaned over Sandra, kissing her <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_9">forehead</span> and praying aloud that God would touch her body. Sandra's body shuddered as she sobbed. I tried to embrace her, to calm her shaking body.<br /><br />Soon there was a couple of nurses in there, regulating the pain medication. Her pain subsided, and her sobs morphed into a soft whimper. Less than 15 minutes later, Sandra was <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_10">pain free</span> and resting.<br /><br />With all the testing that had been done, it was determined that Sandra had a blockage that was causing the vomiting. We consulted with a surgeon, Dr. Gill. To correct the problem, surgery would be absolutely <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_11">necessary.</span><br /><br />Linda B. knew Dr. Gill very well. She assured the family that he was a competent surgeon. The surgery was performed within a day. The family anxiously awaited any news Dr. Gill would have for us.<br /><br />Sandra came through the surgery fine, but the news was anything but good. Dr. Gill found the blockage: a large mass that was restricting her colon from doing it's work. Knowing the futility of removing the mass, Dr. Gill left the tumor. He simply "rearranged" her colon so that the mass wouldn't cause a blockage.<br /><br />This troubled Kevin and me. Surely it would have been better to remove it. But Linda B. told us about her conversation with Dr. Gill. He said, "Everything I saw was bad. Nothing was good. Cancer was everywhere." We tried to absorb the shock of such tragic news. All of us knew her time was very limited, but Sandra didn't know that. Not yet.Ritahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15713132787151439382noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1179113753145187755.post-78958148623684433902009-05-12T22:44:00.006-04:002009-05-12T22:54:40.791-04:00Dressed up Ready for a Date!<div>Rita was anticipating a big date with her hubby. Dressed up, spiffied up, ready to go to Athens. So while Rita was waiting on Kevin, Savannah took some pixs.<br /><br /><div> </div><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgaodbMBWCgDykpcMmwatnQ3K3xORNc8C6XotqmvVwiyJ4aJ3q-6A6AeVjWpiD3Sjh3suXv7FG2hsO6oBlqP-3yXqrq2vnhmHRDsbUfuGw0hGRNimFgbQT8rsKfFzYURO-EPDBMJKBZsAew/s1600-h/Rita+021.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5335134797048731826" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgaodbMBWCgDykpcMmwatnQ3K3xORNc8C6XotqmvVwiyJ4aJ3q-6A6AeVjWpiD3Sjh3suXv7FG2hsO6oBlqP-3yXqrq2vnhmHRDsbUfuGw0hGRNimFgbQT8rsKfFzYURO-EPDBMJKBZsAew/s320/Rita+021.JPG" border="0" /></a> </div><div><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5335135014502025122" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjrYEYsl6wED7-_zhqRLLJfEezORYvgdSjcvwda-L06AzUSWv1jqIxPUYPd0Cew_uiTSfbZpVXs2ILjjhlrazqtjYDSeDCnZnqybPbQ7rZQm657QKlfyV38H87B8FghkbTcxGjxO_uykdDW/s320/Rita+020.JPG" border="0" /> <img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5335135816043049314" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgkDDY4usfiVzp3JK0oTHFKhP73SmSCNvxaqAKSN6Ifa3mS40JQBT6agJwGjRi-fM3ETn7iRJSCmCKm7WikGgpt3zXP0Z0wXgzW42tV-7Kb_qI64B0w4sX5KDDrJR1O59uInt7fhebUFsJx/s320/Rita+019.JPG" border="0" /><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjD9nTs5EVD8OJjko3kaz97B2O-ClnnuZF5vm0nINCXQsKjkY-HQK5jz_d232c4AkdhGrOU3iu13C-X09Il_3r-D2SXLzxjJgfcmiugxD88hNHV2DoT4t_irbzxL4r2_H6sIU8y2sIuek0N/s1600-h/Rita+003.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5335134620147548354" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjD9nTs5EVD8OJjko3kaz97B2O-ClnnuZF5vm0nINCXQsKjkY-HQK5jz_d232c4AkdhGrOU3iu13C-X09Il_3r-D2SXLzxjJgfcmiugxD88hNHV2DoT4t_irbzxL4r2_H6sIU8y2sIuek0N/s320/Rita+003.JPG" border="0" /></a><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiqPgg44uRAW_GQcs-fwzTzhEKzuXAgebt40PQUFtVLzFxcIlYzhFgtdS4euMjDlsdAVLSq1J20H6HN4n9R-n3R64H2YKw2QzOPdI98WBxL46NbMOkZKhyphenhyphenzv0ST8F_11R_I-RmkxrAp8Ch3/s1600-h/Rita+005.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5335134308178193522" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiqPgg44uRAW_GQcs-fwzTzhEKzuXAgebt40PQUFtVLzFxcIlYzhFgtdS4euMjDlsdAVLSq1J20H6HN4n9R-n3R64H2YKw2QzOPdI98WBxL46NbMOkZKhyphenhyphenzv0ST8F_11R_I-RmkxrAp8Ch3/s320/Rita+005.JPG" border="0" /></a><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhktB9itFchMwJ3bJYtYxR8SdhA-wnPGMGH_XYaaa8j3MksYBnlGG-EW7N5CX6NhMCY1bI5MozaXHRsHvs76Dl98Thrzs4dLOTfRQqGSQt3bqv6q_j4jL9wd9vKaVYWJTqDQYwMpA7P3XqV/s1600-h/Rita+009.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5335134072117005170" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhktB9itFchMwJ3bJYtYxR8SdhA-wnPGMGH_XYaaa8j3MksYBnlGG-EW7N5CX6NhMCY1bI5MozaXHRsHvs76Dl98Thrzs4dLOTfRQqGSQt3bqv6q_j4jL9wd9vKaVYWJTqDQYwMpA7P3XqV/s320/Rita+009.JPG" border="0" /></a><br /><div></div></div></div></div></div></div>Ritahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15713132787151439382noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1179113753145187755.post-16423654298830182422009-05-12T01:27:00.002-04:002009-05-12T01:38:47.043-04:00Thank You, Thank You, Thank YouJust a note to thank all of you that view my blog! Special thanks to California, Alabama, Georgia, and South Carolina for the the most return visitors! All I can say is somebody in Alabama really <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">loves</span> me!! Lot's of return visits from the Birmingham area, as well as Athens, Ga and Columbia, SC. I've had lots of other visits from folks on the east coast, so thank you too!<br /><br />I also want to thank those in the Philippines, Germany, Israel, Canada and the UK. I don't know how in the world you found me, but thanks for reading and returning often. I know some of you just stumbled upon my blog, but there are others who want to catch a glimpse of my life through this "window" to my world. You are always welcome to look, read, and comment.<br /><br />Thanks again for the support. It makes me want to describe my view of this great journey. Hope you like the details. :-)Ritahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15713132787151439382noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1179113753145187755.post-55857450487015704022009-05-11T09:39:00.002-04:002009-05-11T10:02:03.594-04:00Shiloh Update...Well, I had to leave my precious pup with the doctor. He has to have X-rays, <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">blood work</span>, and immunizations. So....I have to leave him there until around 3:00 pm.<br /><br />The vet said that <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">Westies</span> are prone to <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">Cushing's</span> disease. He actually displays many of the symptoms, but it has to be diagnosed through <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_3">blood work</span>. And the poor baby already has arthritis in his hip and a compressed disk in his spine, so he has to get NEW X-rays to evaluate those problems.<br /><br />I know Shiloh is feeling pretty bad...he didn't even bark when Kevin and I asked him if he wanted to go for a ride. He just trotted to the back door. He usually makes such a ruckus when we say "ride" that we only say right as we are walking out the door. Otherwise, he will bark and howl until he climbs in the truck. But today, he just looked at us without so much as a grunt.<br /><br />During my sleepless night with Shiloh, I decided to see how he would respond to his favorite treat...sliced cheese. Normally, he assumes the begging position as soon as he hears the wrapper rattle. Then he'll roll over quickly to show his eagerness to do whatever it takes to get that piece of cheese. But today he just looked up at me like, "Cut the dramatics; give me the cheese!" He ate the slice of cheese very gingerly, as if he were afraid to move his mouth too much.<br /><br />I suppose the tests today will tell us all we need to know. I hate that my little buddy feels so bad...it's almost like he's depressed. The vet even mentioned that he may need "doggy <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_4">Prozac</span>." Good grief! Wouldn't that take the cake?!?!?! Only in the Whitman family would a dog need <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_5">Prozac</span>. And Shiloh's not even female! <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_6">LOL</span>!!Ritahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15713132787151439382noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1179113753145187755.post-63471405912286592452009-05-11T06:53:00.002-04:002009-05-11T07:03:46.496-04:00My Little Buddy Isn't Doing To Well...<div align="center">Shiloh</div><div align="center"> </div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh4ao2fc0YlNVH9gGTVd_lQn-Q6Peg6Vc9Mx3mMSM0wngmCY5S66p04TD4aYHe8ttyRvj1WJAbLPzIQyJJDyNb8hyphenhyphen4D0BTRMY2-kTFH0sMkGcqdi_OY_QpQqcO9l5L6pA9C5YdReoAVCbho/s1600-h/Missions+Meeting+%26+More+145.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5334518346978351746" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh4ao2fc0YlNVH9gGTVd_lQn-Q6Peg6Vc9Mx3mMSM0wngmCY5S66p04TD4aYHe8ttyRvj1WJAbLPzIQyJJDyNb8hyphenhyphen4D0BTRMY2-kTFH0sMkGcqdi_OY_QpQqcO9l5L6pA9C5YdReoAVCbho/s320/Missions+Meeting+%26+More+145.JPG" border="0" /></a><br /><div>My little W<span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">estie</span> isn't doing too well. I have been up all night with him, unsure of what the problem may be. He is pacing about, appears to be in pain, and is chewing on all sorts of things. I am waiting for the vet to open at 8. I don't exactly have the money to take him, but he is about to destroy my house! He has ripped blankets and clothes and has chewed on the laptop and <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">bar stool</span>. It's insane! I really feel sorry for him....</div><div> </div><div>What makes this double bad is the fact that I still have a kidney stone and a kidney/bladder infection. I didn't even get to go to church yesterday. Instead of enjoying Mother's Day with my family, I was at the urgent care center, where I received two shots and three <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">prescriptions</span>! I am so drained physically right now. And God bless Shiloh's little heart, but he has kept me from some much needed sleep. </div><div> </div><div>Hopefully I will have some answers in just a few hours. He's so pitiful...He's been a faithful, loyal pet, and I want him to feel better really soon. Plus, I need some sleep!</div>Ritahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15713132787151439382noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1179113753145187755.post-66018102837116829942009-05-06T11:30:00.002-04:002009-05-06T11:43:32.314-04:00Missions MeetingWell, we are half way into our Missions Meeting. It always goes by much faster than I want it to. We spend so long preparing, and then "<span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">wooosh</span>"....it's over.<br /><br />We are having an exceptionally good meeting. The missionaries have been tremendous! There have been a few years when the missionaries were not-so-great. Really, it was only one year...<em>several</em> of the missionaries that came that year just weren't on the same page. And it makes you feel so bad...you want everyone to come and be happy about being there, but when there are doctrinal issues, especially about the qualifications of a preacher, it's hard to make things something they are not.<br /><br />All the ladies have been cooking for the missionaries each night. One of the great perks of being the Pastor's family is being invited to eat with the missionaries each night. I haven't had to cook all week! ;-0<br /><br />We are having late nights, long talks, and lots of fun. My children are especially enjoying their visit with the <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">Hof</span> family from South Dakota. Missions Meeting is usually our Spring Break, so the late nights aren't too bad. I think all the kids from Church are having the time of their lives! Soccer has been the after church activity practically every night.<br /><br />I'll upload some pix later. I'm still contending with a nasty kidney stone-I don't feel like fooling with the camera at the moment!Ritahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15713132787151439382noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1179113753145187755.post-83575089461598685212009-04-25T12:17:00.004-04:002009-04-25T12:42:42.213-04:00Favorite Time of the Year!!Although fall is my favorite season, spring is my favorite time of the year. Everything is in bloom, and the color of flowers and trees paints the landscape. I love the warm weather that chases away the brisk cold of winter. But the main reason I love this time of the year is because of the Missions Meeting, a meeting our church has every year in May.<br /><br />Excitement! All of us at the church feel it as we prepare for our guests. Sometimes we have close to a dozen missionary families that come to our meeting. Most of the time we have about half a dozen missionaries that come to share their burden. Because we try to make their stay comfortable, we always have a lot of work to do.<br /><br />We can <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">accommodate</span> about 3 families at the church, depending on the size of the family. We have several cleaning days prior to our meeting, inside and out! The men work on the outside, while the women strive to make the inside spotless. One of my favorite parts of the preparation is the hanging of the flags from each country we help send a missionary to.<br /><br />There's always so much anticipation leading up to the meeting. This year we have some very special guests. The <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">Hof</span> family, who have a Christian film and photography ministry, will be with us. Bro. <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">Hof</span> was with us a couple of years ago and made a wonder DVD set of the meeting. His work is very high quality. When he was with us in '07, he brought 2 of his 5 children with him. This year, his entire family will be coming. We are so exited about this! Our children and other kids from the church fell in love with the <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_3">Hof</span> kids, even the ones they haven't met in person yet. Sam and Rio came two years ago, and several of the teenagers have kept in touch with them over the past two years. It will be great for the teens to get together again. I am anticipating some very late nights! But that's o.k. Mission's Meeting comes only once a year!Ritahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15713132787151439382noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1179113753145187755.post-8656585148029669872009-04-24T23:42:00.003-04:002009-04-25T00:48:52.678-04:00Forum ProblemsI'm a people person, but I never dreamed I would have so many "circles" to which I belonged. I'm talking about forums, and they are one of my favorite things to do. Unfortunately, they can be a tad bit time consuming. Actually, I got in over my head. At one point, I belonged to about 8 different forums. It all started when....<br /><br />A few years ago, actually two, I was diagnosed with an extremely painful condition called Chronic Interstitial Cystitis. Many people think that the term "cystitis" means that the condition is simply characterized by a bladder infection. Nothing could be further from the truth. There is actually no bacteria present.<br /><br />Anyway, I had a kidney stone in the summer of '07 that landed me in the emergency room. Long story short, I was <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">refered</span> to a Urologist. Even though the stone had passed, I was still having a lot of pain and going to the bathroom about 20+ times a day. I <strong><em>thought </em></strong>I had a bladder infection, but pathology proved different. After a <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">cystoscopy</span>, my <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">Uro</span> diagnosed me with <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_3">IC</span>. Weirdly enough, I had 6 more kidney stones to contend with, 3 in each kidney. (Yes, I had to pass everyone of them.)<br /><br />Well, anyway....the sudden onset of this terrible condition caused me to do a great deal of web research. In that research I found some health related forums. Bingo! I could actually find people that had this terrible disease! Up to this point, I had never even heard of <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_4">IC</span>, much less know anyone that had it. I joined several <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_5">IC</span> related forums, but then I decided to spread out. I ended up joining one called <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_6">HysterSister</span>, and then a political forum, and a couple of Baptist forums. I went hog wild!<br /><br />Now, I'm not into <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_7">Facebook</span> or <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_8">Myspace</span>, not my thing. In fact, this blog is the most personal thing I have on the web. But one thing that bothered me was that on the first few forums I joined, I saw people posting their entire name, address, etc. Can we say <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_9">TMI</span>...too much info!?!?! I always came up with some catchy log in name, but there was no way in this world I would post my real name and address. Too many freaks in the world, and they love to hang out on the <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_10">internet</span>.<br /><br />I had one situation where <strong><em>someone </em></strong>sent these weird emails to me, acting as if they knew me and wanted to see me, blah, blah, blah....They kept telling me that they were daily getting closer and closer to my residence. What freaked me out is that the email address it came to was one that I rarely used. In fact, I only used it for all the forums I joined and my <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_11">Paypal</span> account. (I didn't want my main email address getting bombarded with a bunch of mail that I would rarely read). Another thing that freaked me out was that I was lame on my feet. I had just had foot surgery, and I kept thinking, "Is some nut going to show up at my house? I won't even be able to run!!"<br /><br />I finally received the "punch line" of the email. What was eerie was the fact that the email address these letters came to were only used to sign up on the 8 or so forums I belonged to. <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_12">Hmmm</span>.....I finally decided that it <strong><em>had</em></strong> to be one of the forum moderators. Nice...someone was having a lot of fun taunting me.<br /><br />One of the health forums I belong to just recently had a post about the <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_13">nonsecure</span> status of that site. People were posting all kinds of panicky responses. You could just about hear them screaming! They were warning people, "Don't post your real name, Don't use your real name as a <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_14">login</span> name, Don't post your location, Don't talk about your work place! People can trace your address!" One of the members said they could google their <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_15">login</span> name, and everything they had posted on the health forums came up in the search results.<br /><br />I was sitting there thinking, <strong>DUH!</strong> Exactly why I don't use my real name to <em>begin</em> with. It's not that I want to pretend; I just don't know who is behind another computer screen. I have never posted anything that I didn't want others to read. That health forum had a lot of people changing their avatars, screen names, etc. I just sat back and breathed a sigh of relief that I didn't have to worry about a lack of security. If people are ashamed of what they post, it might not be a good idea to post it!<br /><br />There's been other issues...I've had my password intentionally changed by either a hacker or a moderator. I guess they were having some innocent fun, but it really compromised the integrity of the site. I've had my profile changed without my consent. Needless to say, I don't post of those kind of forums. Actually, I never did. And now I'm glad. What in the world would a rogue hacker or rogue administrator do my with actual words?? My guess is twist them. Whoever it was, they were also writing on other guestbooks and forums under my screen name. I'm not sure what they thought they would accomplish by doing that. I guess some people are hopelessly bored.<br /><br />Well, I can honestly say that I don't have enough time to post on all the forums I'm a member of. I got so carried away, I can't even remember the web address of some of them! I enjoy engaging in conversation and healthy debate, but it can be way too time consuming. I try to make my blog the primary place of voicing my opinions and concerns. And unless there's a really good hacker out there, I don't have to worry about someone changing or twisting my words.Ritahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15713132787151439382noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1179113753145187755.post-25374374617013079572009-04-20T18:31:00.002-04:002009-04-20T18:37:24.635-04:00I've crawled out from under my rock just to say that I <em>do</em> have a kidney stone. And to add insult to injury, it has caused a kidney infection. The nausea hit me yesterday, and the pain has increased over the weekend. The doctor is going to run a test that will identify what type of kidney stones I have. Knowing the answer to that will help <em>prevent </em>further stones.<br /><br />So, right now I'm on antibiotics and pain <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">meds</span>. I don't have much of an appetite...I hope this will pass soon. I feel just plain 'ole horrible.<br /><br />That's all folks. Back under my rock....Ritahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15713132787151439382noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1179113753145187755.post-57669118966017944392009-04-18T01:07:00.000-04:002009-04-18T01:07:45.076-04:00Work....<div align="center">The children have been very busy lately. Even though school takes up much of their time, we always have to make time for work, especially yard work!</div><br /><br /><div align="center"></div><br /><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5325885275260439474" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhGLC2ab-9IkYSCzs9YrFbLzez4oZXhWNpM0xsF9VFxxj4zf49LKU5JQJgLESqdDRfXWRh4W6-Z3l9rgwJ-2QPZky7hVOtLnWHNk-pMeUwMMJ8HkqYwcgJpXUETlAiYK-uEwG7LmYFJ-BPa/s320/Work+and+Play+April+09+003.JPG" border="0" /> <p align="center"> Jordan using the new weed eater.<br /><br /></p><div align="center"></div><br /><br /><br /><div align="center"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgFkJso4NFwaOGR1-Jbv9R4jWTlIBVIBsM63dhS1lvmDgYSE58NLKBuRY3gKO5yleL_wnRLhCi7p14EN6V_L4XRboV2QCFxHeNOlCmnP5qudhhVZXOti1G8_FAsDZBoGgWm28Nwtle86TxF/s1600-h/Work+and+Play+April+09+006.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5325886017835209218" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgFkJso4NFwaOGR1-Jbv9R4jWTlIBVIBsM63dhS1lvmDgYSE58NLKBuRY3gKO5yleL_wnRLhCi7p14EN6V_L4XRboV2QCFxHeNOlCmnP5qudhhVZXOti1G8_FAsDZBoGgWm28Nwtle86TxF/s320/Work+and+Play+April+09+006.JPG" border="0" /></a> Daniel getting the hedge trimmer ready for use.</div><br /><br /><div align="center"></div><br /><br /><div align="center"></div><div align="center"><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgX7TkwqzcIb51QsrJJovNymA88HvGyh08ghvowSgkW9JEUDG-HzZqKldBePJfisalUlEiK6_jL8XRxODOP-Ag7_lSg8ia_db9DQtHJLjf9w80-czaq-GKRdDhJAc1hzJ_Vh_WnIPu6Y7hK/s1600-h/Work+and+Play+April+09+008.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5325885765176500818" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgX7TkwqzcIb51QsrJJovNymA88HvGyh08ghvowSgkW9JEUDG-HzZqKldBePJfisalUlEiK6_jL8XRxODOP-Ag7_lSg8ia_db9DQtHJLjf9w80-czaq-GKRdDhJAc1hzJ_Vh_WnIPu6Y7hK/s320/Work+and+Play+April+09+008.JPG" border="0" /></a> Daniel picking up the hedge clippings.<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhi06UMQd2NFmNeC8r-nkpac4hyphenhyphentBUK_TlpgBzcxokcuZCL8IPHwq8Xo3hAmR-y0BTIvzS02TCn9D-DMj4fr1gZ8TaZSo28XTRP0n2YmH6YP3qVWBTz2zvFr_wKOdh31yCYB6xrS-fnXQ_8/s1600-h/Work+and+Play+April+09+005.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5325885499842266882" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhi06UMQd2NFmNeC8r-nkpac4hyphenhyphentBUK_TlpgBzcxokcuZCL8IPHwq8Xo3hAmR-y0BTIvzS02TCn9D-DMj4fr1gZ8TaZSo28XTRP0n2YmH6YP3qVWBTz2zvFr_wKOdh31yCYB6xrS-fnXQ_8/s320/Work+and+Play+April+09+005.JPG" border="0" /></a> This is how the city expects us to bag leaves now. We ended up with 15 30 gallon bags full of leaves and grass.<br /><br /></div>Ritahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15713132787151439382noreply@blogger.com0